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writes:I have a boyfriend and we've been together for 3 years; I love him more than I've ever loved anyone. But there's a guy who I've been friends with for just over 3 years who I had a crush on before I met my current boyfriend. We hung out for a couple months and it was obvious to all of our friends that we liked each other. For some reason, nothing ever came of it. Now, even though I've been with my boyfriend for so long and love him so much, when I hang out with this guy I still feel the same way about him. I don't love him by any means, but I still have a crush on him. It's lasted all this time. Is it wrong to have these feelings for him when I'm with my boyfriend? And is it wrong for me to hang out with this guy while I know I have these feelings? Should I come clean and risk ruining my wonderful relationship over a stupid crush?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): well...is that crush really just a stupid crush i mean i dont want to break up you wonderful relationship with your boyfriend but if you have this same feeling about this other lad then maybe it is something more, is your relationship with your current before everything you could wish for? do you think you could have a better relationship with this other guy? these are the questions you need to ask yourself! good luck take care x :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 Feeling attracted to somebody is not wrong. It's just being human, in action. A similar attraction brought you close to your current boyfriend.
Since you recognize you love your boyfriend, acting on that attraction would be wrong. If the other guy is a friend, perhaps you can talk to him and even hang out occasionally; but you need to take him off your mind.
If I were you, however, I would look carefully at your last question. You're thinking of acting on your crush. Think hard: do you still really love your boyfriend?
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 It's not wrong - it's normal to be attracted to other people whilst in a relationship.
The thing that defines whether a crush is right or wrong is your actions. If you feel like you could act on this crush, then perhaps you should cut down on your time with the other man - there's no use tempting fate.
Ultimately, it's down to you and your own self control.
Good luck!
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