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writes:I'm 20 and i'v been out of school for about a year and 1/2 and i dont really feel like going back yet, but i have a girlfriend that i really care for that is going to collage soon and i dont see her much as is but once she starts school im afrade that i wont see her at all anymore. As of right now i almost have to fight with her to get to spend anytime with her at all, we no longer spends nights together and our love life is pretty much dead, if tryed to play diffrent role's to try and keep her intrested and it seemed to work for a day or so, she has just become really cold towards me and seem not to care if im alive or not, thats not the big problem though, im mostly afrade of being alone, becuase of this girl i willingly gave up friends and family all for her and now all i have is her... is being alone scary? do anyone think i can take control of my life and find another way to be happy? iv been with her for over 5 years, iv also tryed talking to her and all she says is "i dont want to deal with you right now" and ignors me by turning off her cell or hot answering her home phone, any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, krunkqueen  +, writes (10 July 2010):
i agree with everyone else it seems like she is over this relationship. sorry, I personally know how hard it is to get over the being alone part.. but in time you will heal and find someone who is worth all your love. remember this world is full of millions of wonderful people .
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 I agree with Odds let this one go. Trying to hold on will only cause you more heartache and pain. I understand what you mean when you say you are afraid of being alone because I remember feeling like that when I was trying to get up the courage to leave a long term boyfriend. However it ended up being fine I made myself go out and meet new people through joining clubs and taking special interest courses. You will be ok
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 July 2010):
To be honest, it sounds like she's checking out of the relationship anyway if you're having to fight for her time and she's there switching her phone off and such. Being alone isn't scary if you throw yourself into your own life. Let her go, and get back to your life.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 Long-distance relationships have, according to the American Psychology Association, about a 5-8% chance of working out. People know that they don't work, and that knowledge alone can hurt a relationship about to go into long-distance.
Being alone is scary at first, and we have feelings that we'll never find someone as special again. But our lives and our happiness are our own responsibility, no matter how long we've been in a relationship. Ultimately, learning to be comfortable as a single person helps out in all future relationships.
Let this one go, remember the good times, and learn from the rest. It'll be a rough emotional ride at first, but you'll survive.
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