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writes:Is it worth it to lose your virginity when you are not in a relationship? I am 20 years old. I am horny all the time, been hooking up with a guy that I am very attracted to whom I would not mind having sex with. I am not naive about sex, just inexperienced. I believe that I am ready. I am just trying to decide if it is worth it to lose my virginity to a guy that I am very attracted to, but am not in a relationship wtih. I do not want to pursue a relationship either because I am very busy with college, and will be doing a four month internship out of state this summer, so there will be no time for boyfriends. But in the meantime I am getting impatient and horny!!!! So, what would your advice be? Wait, or go for it? Is it true that when you have sex with a guy it makes you attached to them? I have read that having sex releases the chemicals (oxytocin?) in your brain that attaches you to a person. So, I am trying to get off without falling for him and being hurt when he doesnt talk to me. Haha, complicated right? What would you do?
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reader, tra40d  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 All good advice from the other answerers!
But it doesn't help you, does it? You masturbate, of course you do - but it doesn't come near to solving your problem?
Going for it would help your physical desires, and for a man that would likely be the end of it, but virginity is a more emotional issue for a woman: at least, our society has conditioned you into thinking it is.
If you simply want an "Erica Jong" (the moderator won't allow me to explain that, so Google her books...), I would recommend that you find a mature and considerate man who will be patient enough to take things slowly, at your pace, and finger and ease you lots first.
Sorry, I'm just too far away from you!
If you find a suitable kindly "Uncle" you are unlikely to form an attachment to him, but will remember how he took you in a kind and unselfish way - and it's likely not even to hurt!
Ron.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): Think a bit to the future your baby girl age 20 standing in front of you saying mommy I want to have sex with a guy I don’t love… what will you say to her? Yea go for it? Or would you rather want to protect your daughter form getting into something that could wreck her life what would you say to that? I know its confusing for you, but if you are horny and you still a virgin, use masturbation, this could also improve your knowledge on sex and your body, I always tell my GFriends the only difference between a man and a vibrator is that the vibrator cant by you a drink (lol that’s only me) Masturbating is a great tool to get to know your own body and you will only get to know your body through exploring it, most boys our age don’t even know what to do or for how long to do something, and if you know your body if you know what gets you hot,,, you will be able to experience sex so much better, to tell the guy you are with what you like and how you like it, and not lay the wondering when its gona start feeling good, sometimes girls our age thinks sex sucks coz they don’t enjoy it, its not like they thought it would be (ever heard someone say that) Its only coz they don’t know their bodies what makes them tick…LOL. Discover yourself before you allow some man who you don’t love and don’t care for who might leave you with a disease or something to be with you, I actually think that you might change your mind about this after a good masturbating session, girl if you put your mind to it have a bubble bath light some candles and play some soft music… it can almost be like making love to yourself, LOL it will definitely help you not being so horny.Just remember some people in this world can have sex just for the sake of Cuming and I am sure having crazy sex with who ever is closest when the mood kicks in could be exciting for some, but for a few people this is exciting at first, but afterwards when the lust has gone they are left with guilt, and I don’t think you want that, so think hard about what you want and what you want to do.Good luck dear I hope you get more advise on this one : )
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