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writes:I've been dating my current boyfriend for about 8 months now. DUring our relationship I broke up with him because i thought he was cheating because of text messages and phone calls he received. Not long after we broke up he called me pleading his case and we got back together. I noticed on one of his networking sites that a certain girl kept writing to him, everytime i would ask who or what she was talking about he said he didnt know her like that. After dealing with her comments for a while i finally wrote to her. Turns out she supposedly is pregnant by him. I approached him about it, and he told me a couple months back he did sleep with her but used a condom(he might be lying) I told him i didnt want to be with him and i told him to get his things and leave. I was very persistent, it was to the point that he called my best friend and pleaded his case to her and for her to talk with me so I can give another chance. His eyes welled up with tears as he pleaded with me to give him a chance and that he loved me and that it was a mistake and he doesnt want to be with her, and doesnt want a baby or be involved with her. After evaluating the situation and him basically proposing to me, I went against my better judgement and took him back. The girl supposedly has a man so now a paternity test is in order. I know deep down inside if that baby does turn out to be his, I will never accept that baby. My question is, is it worth it for me to stay with him, or let him go with all the drama that follows. The girl by the way lives in another state more than 1000 miles away i believe. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionForgot to add, she met the moms side about 1 month after i met them..Hmmm and then i saw pics of her n his sister n cousins online on his sisters networking site, and he had the nerve to say oh what so now you not gonna be friends with my sister and them. I mean is it me or is that like a huge slap matter fact punch in the face. Should i break it off now or after the holidays? It kind of sucks that we couldn't work it out, not after learning all the little details. Like they say one mans loss is another mans treasure. With that said thanks for all the advice and keep it coming
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk so let me update you. We had several talks about the whole situation and my gut is telling me to leave it alone, but something is telling me stick it out till the test comes out. I also found out she met his moms side of the family at some party for his little cousin, that being said now moreso than ever i don't feel like being with him. The girl lives across the country and claims to be in love with her current boyfriend, which is why I'm doubting that a one or two night stand she had with him could lead to her being pregnant by him, but who knows. I just feel like everything was going good with us until this happened, and its not a minor situation. So now im at the point where i say should i wait it out or run like marion jones??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): you've got to see what is best for you in this whole situation. if you feel you can handle the situation for a few more weeks then let it go, but if its stressing you too much, let it go. i would say try handling it til the tests are done, but just make sure the information you get is genuine and 100% true. how your gonna do that, i dont know.
-zinz
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 December 2009):
He cheated, lied, has another women pregnant. I think you're a saint for taking him back. But I think all your love and feelings are wasted on him. He even emotionally blackmailed you. This man has to face up to his responsibilities. If he's a father, that young baby will need him. And he will have to pay for it. Also, if it is his, and you can't accept it, then that's going to create a huge amount of tension and wreck your relationship anyway. I just think that since you're still in your early twenties, you can move on and forget all the drama.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 Okay, so he has cheated on you, he has lied to you, he has emotionally blackmailed you, he has made another girl pregnant....With all that stacked against him, do you really want to spend your relationship wondering whether he is going to lie and cheat again??? And everytime something goes wrong he blackmails you until you feel guilty?And please remember, if you stay with him and the baby is his, dont be nasty towards the baby, that is an innocent child caught up in a difficult situation.
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