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writes: My bf of 3.5years has a job that takes up most of his time. Between June-start of August I saw him for a total of about 4 hours. Now he's freed up for about a month and a half. We have spent 2 weekends together and now the next two he's busy with family. i almost want to give up, it seems so pointless having a less than part time boyfriend :( please advise. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): Ask him if he's happy and does the relationship suit him the way it is, and tell him that it doesn't suit you.
See what he says.
Maybe if he doesn't necessarily need all these hours he works, he could cut them down to a more suitable shift (Depending on his line of work.)
Or maybe he could changed job to something a bit closer to home.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 August 2012):
you saw your BF less than my LDR guy and I saw each other last year....
have you told him you need more time from him?
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (23 August 2012):
I would suggest breaking up. You rarely see him anyway, I can't imagine that is any kind of relationship when you saw him for 4 hours in almost 2 months time. Maybe if he gets less hours or work changes for him you try to pick it back up but right now you are essentially single so may as well be officially single.
Question though, does he work out of town? Is it a long distance problem? If you live close together I don't see how anyone can possibly be too busy to have any down time aside from 4 hours in 2 months.
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