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writes:Is 25 and married 2 years to early to have kids. My husband and I are deployed military and will be separated 22 months not counting the the 2 WK R and R we both get. We will be married approximately 2 years when we get home? Is it wise to have kids right away?
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (7 November 2007):
 I would wait until you're both home and you've had a chance to get to know one another again -- and by that, have a chance to "date" your husband and have fun as a couple.
You've got YEARS to have kids (I was 37 and 39 when I had mine). What you don't have YEARS for is time alone with your husband, once you have kids. And you don't want to have kids before you're both in the same place. Seriously, I don't know how single mothers do it. It's really hard, and having a helpful spouse makes all the difference.
I know you're probably feeling your maternal clock going off really hard right now. That's normal. Smack the snooze alarm and feel good about it. There's plenty of time.
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