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*ourAverageJoeS
writes:So i have a question for all you women. If you accidentally run across an old acquaintance after nearly 10 years (who you really didn't talk to very much) is it weird to see if they would be interested in a date? This person was coincidentally a friend of a friend i met years later. When I met her 10 years ago i didn't act on it and she got away and i regretted it for years. I dont like to waste a second chance but I also dont want to blow it. What are your thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 June 2015):
 Is she single?
If she is, then why not? What do you have to lose?
Would I find it strange? Well, since I'm a married woman I would :) BUT if I was single? I might give it a shot if you were interesting.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 June 2015):
 Let us know how it goes.
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reader, YourAverageJoeS +, writes (17 June 2015):
YourAverageJoeS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI definitely have a little reservation to ask (like most people would), but i still planned on it. Im very picky when it comes to finding someone (a good mix of looks and personality) so i dont find what im looking for very often and for someone to make the impression she did on me has never happened before. I just figured i would get a womand opinion on whether it was weird or creepy to make sure its not totally weird. Thanks
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 June 2015):
Just ask her out, at least that way you will get your answer and won't be wondering about any what ifs.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 June 2015):
 Tbh, yes, I'd find it a little strange, after 10 years. But strange- in a good way, so to speak; even if I wasn't interested, I would find it flattering.So go for it, what's the worst that can happen ? that she says no thanks ? ... Life will go on, I assure you :).
Nothing ventured nothing gained !
If what you actually want to know, how many chances of success you have, how can we answer? We do not know her, and we do not even know if she is single (maybe you can that out through your mutual friends before asking her out ). Or, she might just be out of a r/ship and not be looking forward to dating yet etc.etc.
My point is that, while there's no guarantee that she'll accept - then again you do not have to be so afraid of " rejection " nor take it personally, because rejection may very well be situational ,not personal.
In any case , I don't see what would you have to lose. Worst case scenario- you don't get your date and things stay the same as now. I don't think she is going to press charges or to sue you because you dared to invite her out !
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reader, YourAverageJoeS +, writes (17 June 2015):
YourAverageJoeS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou really dont think so?!?! I dont think she actuslly remembers me like i remember her. I really thought highly of this person back then and obviously still do if I recognized them 10years later. She seems to be the type of person I am into and back then i really think there was something but i didnt act on it. Id like to think we are both on each others level physically. How would you feel if this happened to you as a girl? What is yourage for comparison?
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (16 June 2015):
No, I don't think it would be weird if your paths have ended up crossing again. I think you should give it a go.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 June 2015):
Go for it, not in the least weird.
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