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writes:hey everyone, ive got a question.well, im 16 going on 17, i have a lot of friends, guys and girls, and were all pretty much open about everything, homosexuality, sex etc. well im just wondering, everyone around me is soo obsessed with sex, guys and girls, theyre also soo obsessed with drinking. well were all around the same age, and im les or bi.... not to sure, but im mostly looking at girls now, and almost everyone knows, though youd never really guess i was because im not very tomboyish, and am very girly.Is it weird that im not obsessed with sex? Or that im not big on drinking? i feel so, i dont know, i wanna say left out, but its not like im left out, i just feel like weird abt it...It not that i havent developed yet, ive had sexual feeling and stuff like that before, lust and all that good stuff. but i dont know, everyone around me seems to have a sex drive and im just whatever about it.oh yeah i have a girlfriend, and i really like her, but am not physically attracted to her...im not physically attracted to anyone!is this normal, to not be so wild abt sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): well right now your in a stage of confusion. you'll get this a settled when you find the right girl or boy.that's up to you and your feelings
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (27 February 2009):
 No, you're not weird and you're totally normal. I was always that way in high school and now I'm in college and I'm still that way. I have been with my boyfriend since I was a senior in high school and I find him attractive and sexy, but sex just isn't something that enters my mind all the time. Don't get me wrong, I love having sex with him, but I don't talk about it all the time and stuff.And about the drinking, those people are just trying to fit in. That was always something that really annoyed me in high school. Just because you aren't obsessed with drinking doesn't mean you're immature, in fact you're probably the total opposite. If you can be yourself and not get sucked into these fads of getting wasted and thinking it's soooo cool you're in a way better position, believe me. Now that I'm in college the girls and guys that drink like that and have been since they were in high school tend (not always of course, some do well) to do really bad and they're just kind of wasting their lives still living in their high school years. It's kind of sad really.But don't worry, you're totally normal, embrace your personality and the things that you like/dislike. People can say what they want that maybe you haven't matured yet, but I don't think it's true at all. It may be, but I think you would know by now if you were behind in development.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (27 February 2009):
 No it's not weird.
You've got your late teens until the day you die to start enjoying sex and drinking, should they be activities that you decide to partake in.
And if you don't, well that's your choice and there's nothing wrong with it.
You say you've developed, yet in reality we all never stop developing; right now, you're beginning to develop, discover and explore your sexuality...it's all common.
Relax!
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reader, cupids_friend +, writes (27 February 2009):
Okay hi I am 20year old guy all through high school I felt the same way I mean I am straight but I was not wired for sex even til this day its nice ya but I am not crazy for its just something between 2 people that should be shared between 2 people. That love each other anyways I am saying yes it is normal and I hope this helps please let me know
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