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writes:Okay so I just want to know.. is it weird for a guy to NOT want to have sex? I've been with my boyfriend for a year, we love each other and everything but he just won't do it. But yet he still teases me about it sometimes like provoking me kinda. I just don't understand why he doesn't want to. Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): I guess he is gay and cannot admit it. You are his smokescreen. A normal bloke does not avoid sex. Sorry but he is either gay, was abused or not attracted to you
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Could be a few reasons, maybe hes shy, wants to wait, isnt ready, doesnt feel comfortable with sex in general. Dont worry, if hes with you, then he likes you, sex will happen with time. Just dont get worried about it. Good luck with the relationship
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 August 2007):
 I don't think there is anything weird in him not wanting to have sex at the moment. Maybe at this point in his life he simply is not ready. Maybe he thinks you don't want to, does he know how keen you are to do it?.
I think the pair of you have got to sit down and have a chat about what you both really want.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): I think it's weird. I assume you have never asked him why. Cause if you haven't you should. I also think the whole teasing you about it is kinda mean. But don't be scared of him. Just ask. If he really loves you he will explain himself and may even try other stuff with you just to make you happy and try to satisfy you.
There could be a few reasons why he won't. He could be gay. Or he could be really religious and think sex is sinful. Or he might have sexual issues because he was abused. Or maybe he is waiting till he gets married or is a little older.
The whole teasing you thing is really weird, though. I don't think that is very loving. But if he says he loves you and you feel he does and believe him then I don't see any reason why he wouldn't explain to you his not wanting to have sex.
I personally think it is weird but you'll never know for sure how weird it is until you ask him and find out why cause maybe there is a non weird explanation for all this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): Maybe he just isn't ready yet. It isn't weird for guys to not want to have sex, same with girls. Don't force him to have sex otherwise he'll regret it which is bound to make you upset. Let him wait until he is 100 percent ready to have sex and the same goes with you.
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Hey
Well maybe he just isnt ready for sex at the moment or he probably wants to wait for a while before you two do it. Why dont you just ask him if he wants to have sex and then ask him why if he doesnt. Respect his decision becuase if you love him then it doesnt really matter when you two do have sex.
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