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writes:Hi everyone,My question is: Is it expecting too much to want your partner to call you instead of texting you when he plans to spend the night away from home with friends?Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks very much for the replies :) I'm not very good at explaining the situation but what happened was that he was going out with friends the whole day but he said he would be coming home sometime that night. Come 10 pm or so he changes his mind and gives me a text that he wasn't coming home. So I dunno, I just thought that after a day of no contact he wouldn't mind giving me a call, and I was waiting for him to come home.
But as suggested, I did let him know that I would have preferred a call instead but he started to get the 'angry' tone, said a call is no different from a text and that I was being childish for expecting one. Unfortunately I flipped out .; but is it childish?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (3 February 2013):
IF he doesn’t normally call you, then he should be doing that rather than texting. If, however, he normally calls and makes time for you and you’re just referring to a planned night away with friends, can’t you give him a bit of space and be happy with a quick text? Calling is always preferable but if he’s enjoying himself and only has the time to text, so long as this isn’t happening all the time, then let him be.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): If you expect him to phone you then you should tell him youd rather hear his voice rather than just text you, he probably doesn't know that you'd rather thatI didn't see my boyfriend for almost a week because he was too busy with uni and he only texted a couple of times a day, when he was less busy I told him it would be nice if he phoned me especially if we are apart for a while and since I told him he makes sure he phones me. I would have called him but I didn't want to bother him as he was stressed but when he was less busy I told him.Got to be straight with men because they sometimes think differently and once you tell them they'll know.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 February 2013):
I don't think it's too much to expect, but at the same time, the world has somewhat moved on from people having to make calls to tell each other where they are or where they're going. I always call my girlfriend to speak to her and such, but I don't call her if I'm going to be late, or I'm going out, and she doesn't call me.
Is there another reason that you're somewhat worried/hurt by this? I'm not sure that this is just about phone calls.
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