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writes:Please let me know if I am being unreasonable. I have been dating this guy of 7 months and we have been living together for 3. During Thanksgiving break we visited some of his friends a few states away. Shortly after he told me they invited us to come down after Christmas. Now money is tight but they even offered to pay. We had planned on going and then things got worse financially. I told him that I didn't think is was right to impose on them for everything. A few days later he said that he talked to them and now he says that because of the money, it would be better if they just flew him down by himself and me and my daughter stay here. I only have very few breaks off from work and this is one of them. Is it too much to ask that we spend it together. He says I'm being selfish and even went as far as call me a bunch of horrible names. I think this is a very hurtful thing to do to someone you say you love. I feel like I was invited and then uninvited. Makes me very sad. I feel like this person can't really love me and then toss me aside like this. And advice would be welcomed. Thank you in advance.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (16 December 2010):
 He shouldn't be telling you you're selfish and calling you nasty names.
Having said that, I can think of one or two things: one being that presumably if they were not able to afford it, they wouldn't have offered to pay yours and your bf's way to go see them. I don't know if it was your bf's idea for them to just pay for him to go, or whether they changed their minds and suggested he go on his own.
Either way, its ungracious.
On the other hand, you DID all visit them over Thanksgiving. That's not so long ago. If he insists on going, do you have family or your own you can visit?
Finally, maybe moving in with this man so soon after you began dating was probably something you now realize was a mistake......seven months dating hardly gives you time to get to know one another......something to think about for the future of your relationship.
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