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writes:I'm not sure what to do.I'm 18 and I've been with my boyfriend,whose turning 19, a year and a half [on and off] and he wants me to move in with him. The only thing is that he lives with his mom still. I'm not sure if I should move in with him.Any advice?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for responding to my question.I guess I will wait.His mother is a sweetheart but living with her might be different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): From my own past experience I can tell you that is is a very, very bad idea. Stay where you are. If there's a chance of the two of you getting a place of your own in the future, wait until then.
Living with the outlaws is very stressful and I wouldn't like you to find out the hard way.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 I'm not sure that moving in with him and his Mom is the same as living together. You really wouldn't be setting up your own home, you'd be living in his mother's house! That's more likely a recipe for a disaster, for most hypothetical daughters-in-law, because most women want to feather their own nests. You should also consider how you feel about living together without being married. Several women have written in complaining that they can't get their live in boyfriends to the alter after living together and even after a baby or two.
Moving in is a very big step. I would slow things down, and make a list of pros and cons. Figure out what type of life you plan to have in the future, and then decide how to get there from here! Best of Luck with all your future endeavors!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 November 2008):
 I hope you really like his Mom!! I think that moving in is a big step in a relationship and it's so much easier to make that transition when you are living on your own - or at least without his family right there breathing down your neck. That will make you feel like a constant guest in his house. Not only will you have to adjust to a new lifestyle of cohabiting, but you'll also have to learn to live with his mother as well. That's a challenge.
I think the doubt in your mind is valid and I think you two should wait until you can find a place of your own.
Good luck, sweetness!!
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