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writes:Hey.I am a newbie at relationship things. There's this girl that i feel attracted to in my class. I have only started talking to her since 3 days and it's the last day that I'll be seeing her. I KNOW, i chickened out too much, but i don't think it's already too late. So I wanna ask her out and take any for an answer. I'm a daydreamer so I have it all planned out.The question is, should i keep it to myself or tell her that i like her? Is it too early for me to be honest to her? I kinda want to tell her just because i think she knows anyway. But I just don't wanna ruin it with her or make her uncomfortable.I hope she doesn't read this and find out because that would be embarassing. I came her for help because the site itself and I don't really know much people. Also talked to one of my family but I'd still like other people's opinion. So if you can help me, please and thank you for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2012): Can someone else give opinions about this please?
I really hate how I'm always nervous around her and can't act normally. The conversations i've had with her weren't all even that good, i feel like, because i was just always shrinking and feeling nervous. We're not that close, and barely know each other well. When i do my lame-ass attempts to talk to her, she still responds at least so she's really nice, but i'm just too stupid in these kind of stuff.
Is it good to tell her how I feel in this kind of situation or not? More opinions please! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): Thanks guys. I understand what you are saying but this still puts me in an uncertain decision to make. For me this really seems like a launching rocket that needs to be precisely calculated. I don't even know her and this is how I feel already. It sucks.
Cindy, what if I just wanna tell her the reason why I never talked to her in the first place - that I'm always nervous around her. Or maybe even tell her how I fell for her the first time i saw her, but that seems unnecessary, is it guys? How does this sound?
And maybe I should take it slow. But we are all different and I don't really know if she would take it slow or not.
Thanks for your advices. More from other people would be wonderful.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 I think it's superfluous you tell her anything at this stage, just ask her out. She knows that you like her, if you ask her out on a date after knowing her for 3 days , and if she says yes, .. she must like you at least a bit too.
BUT : an official declaration may put her too much on the spot, she might still be undecided yet, she may not know if she wants to date you or not ,... and going on a first day it's a step to find that out . I think you'd be jumping the gun .
Plus, do you think it would be so flattering for her ? .. Not really. You basically don't know her from Adam, you can't say you like her for her qualities or personality or intelligence, so " I like you " at this stage just means
" I like your body, the exterior package ". Which is a compliment , of course, ...but really not THAT much of a compliment, if she is young and barely decent looking she's heard it already quite a few times, - you need to come up with something more to impress :)
I know you won't listen to this advice, when people say they kinda want to do something... they kinda go ahead and do what they want anyway ,lol ! Which is not wrong either, this is not launching a rocket that must be calculated precisely step by step, - it's also ok to go with your flow and hope for the best , so...good luck.
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reader, orangeswild123  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Life is so short go for it! Tell her how you feel! For guys to tell a girl he likes her it's an amazing thing lol. Girls are usually sensitive anyways so we thing that stuff is cute and are accepting of it. Tell her how you feel and see what happens. I got it in my head I would give my number to this guy I liked. I did my hair, put some heels on and gave it to him and just kind of spelled it out that I had a crush on him etc. He couldn't stop smiling and we went on a couple dates. It didn't work in the end, but I never heard the end of how amazing it was that I did that for him. Even if she doesn't feel the same, which seems like she likes you. It's okay, at least you had the guts to do it. That says a lot about your character!
So go for it!!! You can do it!! :)
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