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writes:I am a 42 year old woman and I think I’m about ready to give up. I was married for 14 years when my husband left because he decided he was gay (although he later decided he was bisexual). Then three years later I fall for another man. After 6 months of dating, he has left me to join the catholic priesthood. I have officially gotten a complex. Perhaps there are some people destined to be alone and not find love. Is it time to just give up on the idea of ever finding love--real love? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): Girl don't give up on love . U just had 2 bad experiences with men who turned out to be proper bastards.
U are young. So see the funny side of these incidents (I'm not making light of your hurt and pain) chalk it down to experience.
U know the song I will survive. Well u will. Believe it. U will.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Don't give up on anything! 42 is still young enough to live life.
I understand the "complex" you might feel, but when you look at it... it's about THEM not you. Your first husband didn't turn GAY/BISEXUAL because of you. He most likely always felt that way and finally grew a set and decided he wanted "that" life instead. The second guy.. well, that is just odd. Maybe he felt the calling earlier, but felt he "should" live first. If the "call" is strong enough I don't think ANY woman would have kept him from following it. He REALLY should have listened to his heart and not broken yours in his path of discovery.
Focus on you now. Things you like to do. Live life! Don't sit around and wait for a man, for you to have fun.
Cheer up, honey! Life's calling.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 October 2011):
 oh dear I'm sorry I had to laugh.... first your husband leaves you because he admitted he was gay/bisexual then your boyfriend leaves you for the priesthood...
I'm sorry that struck me as funny... and yet I have total sympathy for you and I'm sorry I laughed....
I knew a woman who was married 3 times... husbands 1 and 2 both died of cancer... talk about a complex... and a brave husband #3 for sure...
At 42 you have a good long time ahead of you.... and I am betting that you will find someone when the time is right...
what i've learned from years of falling in and out of love... it falls in my lap when I'm NOT looking for it...
just living my life.... hobbies, work, friends..
One GREAT fun hobby that is FULL of men (albeit smart geeky guys) is board gaming.... that's how I met my current boyfriend.... and there's always something to do when you have down time... grab a game and play...
http://www.boardgamers.org/ can give you an idea of what kinds of games and events there are.
if you are more interested in that information feel free to message me privately,
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (25 October 2011):
Hi there. Don't take it personally.
Perhaps when you go out looking for a suitable life partner, you might go looking in the wrong places.
Don't bother with bars. A lot of the men there are probably half drunk anyway, so that's a waste of time.
What about taking up an interesting hobby that allows you to leave home for a few hours once of twice a week, and meet like minded people to yourself?
Obviously, a hobby or interest where it's a mixed environment, so you meet both men and women. The thing about having a hobby, is you just never know who you will meet, and who they know. Like making friends, and then you meet other people through your friendship with those people.
It's a catalyst to other situations and things happening. Honestly, the sky's the limit really.
One thing leads to another and it goes from there.
Some interests might be:-
(1) Playing golf.
(2) Bushwalking.
(3) Dancing classes - many different types.
(4) Taking a class in learning something new.
There's a whole world full of possibilities out there, there really is.
The only limit is your imagination.
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