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writes:Is it really petty on my part to feel hurt that certain friends of mine didn't even think enough to send me a birthday card when I always make a big deal on their birthdays? I guess I am just so disappointed that they didn't think it worth the effort to even get me a card... Reply to this Question
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reader, somethingannonymous  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 tricky. i know that i consider birthdays important - and it's not great when you get a friend a gift/card for their birthday, but get nothing for yours. yet you can't say "I got YOU something", because you don't (or at least shouldn't) buy someone something just so that you get something in return!the only good way i can think of indirectly encouraging your friends to celebrate your birthday is by celebrating it yourself - throw a party!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 It's not wrong to be bummed out. Did your friends do ANYTHING to celebrate your birthday or just blow it off completely? Maybe they prefer different ways of showing you that they care on your birthday. Lord knows plenty of people are horrible at sending letters (me being one of them).
Forgive them this year, and next year before your birthday let them know how excited you are about it and give them hints so that they know to make a big deal out of it. As "CupidGuy" says, maybe they're just the type who doesn't really see a birthday as a huge event, but if you let them know that it would mean a lot to have them acknowledge your day, maybe they'll surprise you with their actions.
Happy birthday, sweet!
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