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writes:Sick of falling in and out of love.Hey all, I've just ended an 18 month relationship with my girlfriend and I feel incredibly guilty. I've had some serious health problems in this time and she stuck by me without complaining or moaning. I didn't work at all during this period(still don't).We made so many great and grand plans and I really thought we would be together forever. We argued frequently and would often end up screaming and shouting at each other, this became too regular for me so I walked out 2 weeks ago. I don't regret leaving, I'm sure it was the right thing to do, but I feel so crappy. She is angry about things and we haven't spoke in a week.Why do I feel so guilty?Should I try talk with her or leave things completely?Thanks for reading.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 I think that you should leave things completely. Talking with her might spawn on another argument.
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reader, somethingannonymous +, writes (22 September 2008):
 it's only natural to feel guilty when you finish with someone. and if you maintain the silence, you'll only feel more guilty, because you're not being there for her like you always were before. but if you try to be there for her - check that she's ok and stuff like that - you're only going to confuse her, which is even worse. i've been on both sides of this. i was broken up with first, and couldn't understand why it had happened, and why my ex had done all the things she'd done - keeping in contact with me, texting me, calling me, but not ultimately taking me back. then i started a new relationship with someone else, but broke it off a while later. and with all the guilt, and wondering whether or not i should see she's ok and be there for her, i realised exactly why my previous ex had been like she had.so in a nutshell, i think you have to be cruel to be kind. just... don't do it in a cruel way! don't be rude to her or anything if she tries to talk to you. just explain why you think it's best that you don't communicate anymore.hope this helps. all the best.
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