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writes:My question is a very short one. I have been married almost 3 years to a man I really love and consider to be my best friend. however since i first showed him the cyber social sited he bagan to talk to girls all overr and began telling them hewanted to have sex with them and they exchanged numbers and cell phone pictures. He just recently received the very innapropriate pic of a womans genitals. He tells these women he is not married or that we just live together to raise the kids. I am really hurt, This has been the source of our fights for almost 3 years. He has been doing it for as long and only admitted to it because I had found the picture in the inbox of our email. Before when I ask him he denied it. He still denies it happened all the time and says it has only happened the one time i caught him. Little does he know I have known this whole time. I aske him to stop and he owuldnt. Does anybody else consider this to be a cheating move? I do. And do you think it is workable to stay together with a liar and a cheater
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell it is now November and I want to update on the situation with my husband. After confronting him and him deleting his myspace and the such he actually used his ps3 account and xbox live to contact girls. I confronted him yet again and it was the same old excuse. I filed for a temporary seperation and told him to get it in gear or its going to end in divorce. I just dont see how a person thrives off the anonymous praise over the internet. To tell you the truth I truelly feel sorry for him and i believe he is a selfish man and has low self esteem. I can truely say that I have lost some of the love I felt for him.I cathc him in lies all the time and it even over silly dumb things a person shouldnt lie over. I am beginning top see a WHOLE DIFFERENT PERSON than who i married. Has anybody else ever hadto deal with the cyber cheaters and the emotional cheaters? I do truelly beleive it is not out of the realm that he has physically cheated on me. At this point I am half there with him still for the kids and half there because I cant face the fact that my marriage is failing. At what point do you just let go and say enough? Because of all the stress I am on anti anxiety medication and he has the gall to say i am overreacting. True, i stay on my own and for reasons that I shouldnt but I dont know what else to do. Once a liar always a liar i guess. thank you to all who answered the ? i appreciate the opinions and the feedback.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am in total agreement with leaving him. I am trying with all my heart to forgive and forget but its not getting any better. I truelly believe he only stopped because I got strong enough to confront him. He deleted his myspace page and the other assorted sites and feels that is the magic solution to the problem. I told him its like closing the gates after letting toe horses free,,whats the point. He tells me he is sorry and he wants to work things out but i think he only sorry he got caught. I dont feel in my heart that he has any regret or guilt or shame over what he did. I am trying to be civil as we have 4 kids and I am still letting him share our home but we sleep in different rooms and the only communication is about the kids. I am filing for seperatioon to see if maybe there is hope of salvaging this tarnished marriage. And he actually told me because I wont sing his praises for getting rid of myspace and the like and I dont take him back right now that I am a cold hearted person and have no compassion!!!!!!!!! :) He wontaccept the responsibility of his actions. Thank you for your responses. As I am in need of unbiased opinions.
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reader, t-fave  +, writes (12 January 2010):
Hey there, I read this, and he is defianatly cheating, don't confront him, of course he is going to deny it, even if you find the pics, so my advice... Break up with him, he is not doing you any good but give you stress and lots of it, either he goes or you go.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 January 2010):
You asked him to stop, he hasn't. That says it all. Send him packing.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (11 January 2010):
 I came out of a 10 year relationship, with someone who isnt a straight out liar, but whos mom raised her that it was ok to leave things out, or not be fully truthfull if it ment not hurting someones feelings, or if it wouldnt enflame the situatiion, so she never really looked at it in the same sense I do, and it eventually led to cheating, I think trust issues doom a relationship of any sort, even just a friends relationship, if you cant trust someone, whats the point in having anything to do with them? Ive never found a good answer.
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