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writes:Is it fair to tell her I am in love?Our first meeting - We had sex for 2 hours and it was extremely passionate. How we ended up having sex in the first meeting is something which I rather not discuss here.Our 2nd meeting - We ended up chatting for 7 hours face to face over a meal. No liquor. Just honest talking.I have fallen madly in love with her. But I am afraid if I tell her this, she may not take it seriously! She may say " You don't know me yet, how can you love me?"!However, in my defense, I feel she gave me so much information about herself in our 7 hour chat and then of course we have had sex!SO my question to you guys " Is my love real basis of this? I do feel it is, but would you guys agree?And you girls, would you laugh at a guy who says he loves you and wants to marry you eventually on basis of these 2 meetings as described above? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 Ahhh, now I see why you want to propose so badly. You want to ensure that this wonderful connection will still be available to you when you get back!
In those 4 months, I'd go for the classic romance. Write her fun postcards or a few handwritten letters. Send a random bouquet of flowers just because it's Tuesday. I'm not suggesting you overwhelm her with gifts and contact, but be sure to keep the spark there while you're away. When you come back at least you'll have been building memories, even if you haven't been seeing each other.
I'm sure she did have the "best time eva", and it's a good thing to be leaving on such a high note. Enjoy your travels, have a safe journey and look forward to when you get back and you can really explore this new relationship.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ Taste of India and @Hugh. JI like your answers and agree with them.In my original question, I forgot to tell you guys that since then she has told me 1-2 times that "She had the best time eva" with me. This is in reference to our 7 hour chat. The main problem is that since our 2nd meeting...I have had to travel and unfortunately we will not be meeting for up to 4 months and henceforth my insecurities.Any advise how to approach these 4 months?When we last talked it was like " when you come back we will take it up from there". Yes, it sounds like a cool way to do it but I cant be waiting for 4 months to communicate with her as she suggested!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 April 2011):
I second Hugh.Yes. I'd laugh. Maybe get a little freaked/creeped out. Or maybe say yes because I'm in this lust-crazed fog too, and make the worst decision of my life. I'm not saying you guys wouldn't ever be married successfully one day, but it is REALLY not going to work after two days. Slow down! Your two meetings were these romantic, sex crazed, passion-ridden scenes out of a harlequin novel. Don't skip to the end when you're on page like, 13! Don't crush this relationships future by doing a seriously-crazy thing like proposing. Instead do a fun-crazy thing and surprise her with a bouquet of fun flowers and quote Shakespeare or something. That's a crazy thing that she's bound to love! You are creating the beginning of your story. Don't rush it by popping the question. That would take all the courting and romance right out of it, and what's the fun in that? I'd even hold out on saying you love her. Let that build too. Right now, the tactic should be coming up with ways to SHOW her that you love her... actions speak louder than words. Like with the proposal, saying "I love you" is the climax event. Let the anticipation build a little bit.Compare it to the sex. The two hour sex was amazing, right? If it had ended in three minutes instead of two hours... Try to savor the passion. Good luck!
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 You are not in love, you are in lust!
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