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writes:I was just wondering, if you ever had to choose between personality and who the person is, what is more important in a relationship?Like what I mean by who the person is:-They play sports, can bake / cook, is very artistic, like the same animals / ideas for the future.What I mean by personality:-How they treat men, if they like to party or not, if they are into drinking a lot or not.What is more important in a relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 I think it's more important what you call "personality "
What you define "what a person is " is basically about their hobbies, interests,tastes.
I could see myself with a person who, for instance, likes sports, exercise, computers , and rock concerts , even if my passions are instead theatre,literature,movies and fashion.
Why not ? we don't need to be joined at the hips, we could each keep some space for doing our own thing, or make occasional foray's into the other's area of interest ( that's fun too , I tried ).
But I absolutely could not see myself with someone who drinks like a fish, parties all the time , or is bad mannered.
Interests and hobbies often vary in time, social and moral values are more permanent ,so I'd first check our compatibility from "personality" point of view.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (18 January 2011):
 It all comes in one package. For instance, i exercise almost daily, i cook, i appreciate art and music, i've learned to play the guitar and i find pleasure in reading books. One might conclude that i am definitely not a lazy man sitting around all day wasting my time and playing Xbox. Get the picture? I see you are still young though, you will figure it out over time just keep your eyes open and observe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Hobbies are a part of personality and therefore go together so it ALL should be considered as one thing that is important to a relationship. Its just a matter of what youre seeking from there on out. Good luck.
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reader, Miss.Me +, writes (18 January 2011):
 Wow, this is different than the usual "looks or personality" question :)
I think ultimately who the person is and her/his personality is one. But if I had to choose it would be personality. A person can be a cook, but if he doesn't enjoy cooking or is gloomy about it then why bother. Personality affects attitude. If you have a good attitude about things, anything you do will be good.
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reader, RayBones +, writes (18 January 2011):
 If you're into the same hobbies and you don't like the personality... you better be doing that hobby ALL the time.
Compatibility is an interesting thing... some say opposites attract, but really, just make sure you know what you want, and be open and clear with your communication. Can't go wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Both ur definitions are the same
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