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writes:is is possable to be in love with 2 people at the same time?iv been with my boyfriend 2years now and we were best friends years b4, i really think i love him and at the moment i feel like i wont to be with him for ever. But i'm very close to my other best friend who's also a boy and after an evening where we got a little too close (if u get wont i mean) he is all i seem to think about and whenever we are together i just feel like i wonna do things with him (but we dont we have (LOTS of)self controle) and i've told him n he likes me too but i dont wonna leave my boyfriend n he has a girlfriend and i dont know wot to do. please help thanx .
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (30 August 2008):
 It is possible to love two people in the same degree, but it's impossible to be IN love with two people in the same degree.
You may love your friends, family, and boyfriend. Each of them to an extent, probably depending with your experiences with them and the way they have treated you. It's possible to love two friends the same way.
But being in love with two people the same way is impossible. You fell in love with your mother the instant you saw her, but I bet to you it's not the same way you will be in love with a person.
No offense, but I don't think you're "in" love yet, but I do take your word you love your best friend and your boyfriend. The thing is, that falling in love is trickier... and a lot harder. It takes a long time, work, and sweat.
So I think you should let destiny choose for you, just right now. Try to freshen up your relationship with your boyfriend so you will start liking him more, maintain your love for him, try to make work. As for starting to have feelings for best friend, that's nothing rare. They're people we trust, can count on, and have known for quiet while. It's clear the two of you are mature as you two have resisted temptation (which is oh so hard to maintain).
If your feelings are strong, and they're deeper than just lust, then I really think you should give it a try. Why should you pass up a chance of probable real love just to stay with a person you don't feel anything for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): I think that it is possible to love two people...Actually...I get what your feeling. I don't know why people would think this isn't possible. Go with your heart, It should show you the way...
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