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writes:Hi. I have a bit of a situation. My chemistry teacher this year is awesome. Probably one of the coolest guys ever. While he is incredibly gorgeous, I don't want to date him ever. He's really become like an older brother to me this year. We're always teasing each other and joking around, he even calls me champ. He's only 9 years older than me, so it's not that weird. We're pretty good friends, but whenever I talk to him my friends think it's because I'm in love with him. That's not true at all. I've tried to explain it to them, but they don't believe me. My question is, is it possible to be friends with a teacher without people thinking that you're just making some extra credit points? And is it really that weird to be friends with your teacher? Help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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reader, wickyricky  +, writes (11 November 2008):
to me that sounds like he just wants a younger girls for sex honestley becarful he could lose his job and you could even get thrown out of school
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reader, Teacake +, writes (11 November 2008):
 It is highly inappropriate and unprofessional for a teacher to have friendships with students unless it is in college. This guy sounds like he is a bit of a control freak. He knows that is wrong to behave this way with a student and no doubt he does this with many girls.
It is part of being a young girl to get a crush on a cute teacher. I remember my school days very well! Steer clear of this guy because you can get him in trouble and you would also be "teaching" HIM the proper way to interact in school. Of course you will feel like you are missing out on affection and attention by staying away from him. Please try to find someone closer to your own age for now. I realize the appeal is because to you he seems mature, but an older man being friends with young girls is actually a very immature man. LOL
I recall having a crush on a man when I was 20 and he was 45. Years later I ran into him and I couldn't believe that I ever thought he was so cool! LOL He was a creep who took advantage of young girls and was very immature all those years later.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (11 November 2008):
 I don't see any reason why not, aside from the one that 'monica90' pointed out, which, I agree would be bad. On the other hand, if you're sure, that he just wants to be friends, and nothing more, I don't see any reason why not, if he is a responsible teacher, he won't give you extra marks just because you do talk to him, and may have a closer friendship with him than some of the other students. Besides if it's really important exam or something, it's usually marked by him, and another teacher, so no worries there. It may be a bit weird for people to see you hanging out with a teacher, and may tease you for it, but if you're comfortable with it, then who really cares, it's only what you and him think that matters, if you don't find it awkward, then theres nothing wrong with it, if you get along and everything. Obviously don't loose your old friends, but explain to them, that you are just friends, and that's it, you're not in love with him, you just have things in common, which is never a bad thing. You're friends still may not get it, but should just leave you too it and respect your decisions. However, do make sure to be aware of signs which may lead to more that friendship, as 'monica90' said, it would be very bad if he does want something more, but until the signs start coming, do what you feel comfortable with, it's up to you either way, I just hope this has put it into a clearer picture for you.
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reader, monica90 +, writes (10 November 2008):
this is not what you may like to hear but no!! and im telling you this from my own experience... i was in the same situation as you. I was really close with my teacher and he was someone who i really looked up at and enjoyed spending time with as we always had a laugh, he was the same with everyone i guess but always said i was his fave!! after all he ended up telling me he loved me and wanted me to have some sort of relationship with him even though he was married!! it was BADD!! so huni id say maintain your distance with him and find friends at your own age group.. hope it helped
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