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*ree.ts
writes:I met this guy in a club three days ago, we were dancing, talking and, well, we had sex in a toilet (yeah, I know, but I was drunk and it was actually the first time I did something like that). After that we spent some more time together, left the club in the morning (also together) and went for breakfast. He wanted my number but I wasn’t expecting him to call, I thought it would be rather strange. But he surprised me, and called the next day. He asked me out and yesterday he took me for a dinner to this extremely expensive restaurant. It was nice, we talked a lot and he treated me like a lady – which is shocking to me because of our first night together. After all he walked me home, kissed goodbye and all the time he behaved like a perfect gentleman. He also wants to see me again. Well, I’m confused about this whole situation – I’ve never before had had sex with a guy who was almost a total stranger but I thought that stories like that end as soon as sex ends. Is it possible that this guy treats me seriously? Is there a future for a relationship which starts with sex in a toilet?The other thing is that we are actually quite different – I’m studying in a university and except my education I have no other responsibilities, whereas he has this serious scientific career and he works as a lecturer in a university (fortunately, that’s not my university).What do you guys think? Is there a point in seeing this guy?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 I wouldn't bring it up right away. About the most I'd do is, after a few dates, say something along the lines of, "You know, I have something to get off my chest. The night we met was the only time I've ever done something like that. It's been bothering me because I don't want you to think I make a habit of that kind of thing."
As a general rule, it's not a good idea to bring up your past relationships. It often leads to more problems than anything else.
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reader, bree.ts +, writes (21 December 2010):
bree.ts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you dirtball for your answer! As for your suggestion, I know I won't screw random guys anymore, that's just not my style ;) This guy was the third man I have had sex with and the other two were actually my long-term boyfriends. Do I tell him this? Should I explain the situation? we weren't talking about what happened in the club, I guess we were avoiding awkwardness ;]
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 December 2010):
Is it possible? Anything is possible. Is there a future? Doubtful, but at the same time it can't hurt to see, right?
I say why not. Go for it. I would suggest you don't make a habit of screwing random guys at clubs, but other than that there is no harm in seeing where this goes. It's good that he took you out on a proper date. Perhaps this was a one off for him too.
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