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writes:is it wrong of me to fantasize? i have crazy fantasies about a guy he is a cheater. but im insanely attracted to him. i always have been but we have been friends for awhile but we havent done anything even though we liked each other at one point. i dont wanna be in a relationship wit him but i have been single didnt even talk to any guys on that level. is it ok to fantasize about him? and have sexual dreams Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol at tarnished night. that may be exactly what im attracted to but thats what i want to figure out. i liked him before wen i wa younger the feelings disappeared but this year they came back. we havent done anything. except kiss once cuz he took me to my h.s. prom. but how do i decipher whether my feelings are real or not?
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reader, Tarnished Knight  +, writes (20 December 2009):
Yes, of course. Whether it is about a guy, girl, a trip, winning the lotto, driving a dream car, having sex with a man, a woman, a secret admirere or a friend...it is OK to fantsize. However, are you sure that is all you want? It sounds like you are attracted to his "bad boy" qualities...it sounds like you want to be one of his female "victims" because you think you can tame the lion inside of him better than those "other women". My advise, go for it. You only live once, try it. Just know that for every action their is a reaction...is your friendship worth risking for the reward?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 December 2009):
There's no problem with fantasizing at all. So long as it doesn't turn into a nightmarish reality, you'll be fine.
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