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writes:I fancy my brother's close friend. He's two years older than me but I've known him for years. We've always had a thing many people have said he has a thing for me. He sadly has a gf with a girl I know but I am single now and he's been quite flirty with me. For example he pulled me onto his lap and said let's forget I have a gf for tonight when we were drunk and he was kissing me on the cheek. He said his gf was too demanding but I'm not sure if it's ok to text him or to leave it alone. I can't even talk to my brother about this even though we are super close. My brother even thinks he should break up with his gf as he doesn't seem keen anymore. I have always thought of him as a 'what if' and he has always been flirty with me over the years. Any help?
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (29 July 2016):
 If things are that bad with her, then it shouldn't be too long before you get your chance. Don't let him be your reason for being that type of woman and that way NO ONE cant point the finger at you for breaking them up-especially her
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2016): Go for it!! But do not be that naive that you think he will dump his gf for you .
He will be happy to give you a wham here and there though .
If you want to be used just carry on :)
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (26 July 2016):
 He wants to cheat, which means he doesn't respect you or his girlfriend and he doesn't want anything serious with you either. Also, don't consider helping anyone cheat or you're almost as bad as they are.
Let the crush fade, don't fuel it with "what ifs" any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2016): He's up to no good. He doesn't fancy you in a good way, he wants to have sex with you, and cheat on his girlfriend. He's not going to leave her for you, he'll get what he wants and move on to the next easy target. He knows you have a crush, and he's willing to play his cards, get what he wants, and drop you like a hot potato.
You don't go after guys who recently broke-up anyway. They play you on the rebound and there's always unfinished business with their exes. Some ex-girlfriends go psycho, and they can hurt you pretty badly. In ways you couldn't imagine. You don't vex another female that way.
I know you've heard the adage: " Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!" Being betrayed by a man brings out the worst in some women; even when you think she's no threat. I guarantee you won't just walkaway with her boyfriend without getting a dose of karma.
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reader, miss frank +, writes (26 July 2016):
I'm not sure what you are asking in your question- is it ok to text him and engage in cheating of any description? No, it isn't, and that's what you'll be doing, but then you are no idiot- you know this. The type of behaviour you are allowing and engaging in isn't acceptable. He's enjoying the chase and the thrill it gives him, and you are enjoying the attention.
If he wanted anything more than he gets from you- as in something serious and not just a bit of fun behind his disrespected girlfriends back, he'd be out of that relationship and you'd know his feelings.
He isn't, and you are just some girl who lets him do things like pull you into his lap to fondle.
Don't kid yourself. Have more respect for yourself and your fellow female in his girlfriend
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 July 2016):
 I fully agree with FA's advice.
To be blunt? No it's NOT OK to chase after a guy who has a GF. If this GF is so demanding and horrible, he can DUMP her. No one is holding a gun to his head telling him he HAS to continue to date her.
And a guy who will cheat WITH YOU in his GF, will CHEAT ON you later on too. Why do you think he wouldn't? Because you are so special?
He is playing you.
And last little tidbit. Let's say you have a BF and are content with the relationship. Some little snip of a girl decides SHE wants "YOUR" man, how would you feel? Oh wait... you think that couldn't happen to you, right? Cause you are ... so special?
Come on, girl USE some common sense and common decency.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (25 July 2016):
 Nothing new but to give you the same answer from a guy. If he will cheat to be with you, then he will cheat on you. An honest person ends one relationship before starting a new one.
As for advice directly to you, A smart monkey doesn't monkey with another monkey's monkey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2016): Fishdish statement was the nail I was going to kinda say .. A guy who acts like that whether or not happy in his relationship would for me .. Make me cringe .. forget he had a gf for a night ?? .. This isn't a interest other than sexual .you can see that right ? .. its just a one off .. its not a quiet word saying how much he likes you as a person .. as a sexually being as well .. but your a one night thing ..Not a datable .. For a night .. eh sorry but for me .. I would have took his sickly lips of my cheek and went yes keep dreaming ..haha
I think your welcoming sweetie attention that you should reconsider ..
Your too good for a one night thing .. x
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reader, fishdish +, writes (25 July 2016):
 Let it dissolve naturally. It's not like he doesn't show signs of interest, and it sounds like the current relationship is a ticking time bomb. It's possible you'll show some characteristics he may not like if he sees you actively driving a wedge in the relationship, or being catty.
He sounds a little sketchy though. I mean..we're probably all glad he grabbed and kissed you on the cheek, but what if you end up dating him? Who is he going to ask to pretend he doesn't have you as a girlfriend? Something to keep in mind as you consider him as a potential partner.
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