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writes:I have met a nice Indian man. I am a white female and have heard some rumours that Indians can not date/marry white woman.I am not actually looking towards marriage yet as im only 20 yrs old. He has sent me love songs and he seems real into me. One of the songs was I Want To Spend My Life With You.Anyway Im blabbering my question is, Is it ok for a Indian man to date/marry a white woman and are his parents likely to interfere with an arranged marriage?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Rupan +, writes (7 January 2013):
I am a Indian. Yes. It is ok to marry. But Indian values are bit different. For example, his family or few family members might be financially dependent on him. You need to accept that.Usually Indian men does not like his wife or GF get closer to other men. I like a white girl. But it was too late for me to understand that she liked me. Such a wonderful, kindly girl. I was bit scared whether she would adjust to my family and we have 8 years age different..But really I like her deeply (not because of white skin. She even proposed me indirectly. I did not say any thing. I feel guilt that I made her fall in love with me and I could not make a decision. But now,she is not talking with me much. I not sure whether I can forget her in life time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): Like any one else, Indian will also have it's two sides.
Yes it is fine to date / marry white. Biggest plus you will get with Indian is that you will get a family of your own if you include his sisters and parents to you.
He will be there with you for life long. He will not have unnccessary complication of extra marritals, ex factors and so on.. your kids will love you and will be with you.
Cons are
He may not say I love you life long. ( Though he will die for you ) .
So over all i feel go ahead and do that. I know one of my distant brother married white and they are now in their 50. ( succesfull marriage )
So be prepared to adjust with Indian ways a bit and enjoy the fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): yo whats up?! im an indian guy. i think i could help you out. sounds like this one really likes you. yes there are rumors of indian men not marrying outside of their culture. and yes in some cases its true. In india, most men seek to their parents for marraige advice and then they set them up for an arranged marraige and get stuck with someone they have no feelings for. Indians are traditional and strong family people and usually don't marry outside of their culture(although somewhat less today). that's where this stereotype comes from. but if the relationship is worth it and you guys love each other very much, you should get married. His parents may interfere if they are traditional and backwards thinking. If this occurs and your boyfriend has real balls, he will, like most indian men in the US, take the plunge and marry who we love and not become mommy's boy and end up loveless. hope that helps!
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Well I know for a fact, and this is just a generalisation, that Indian women - that is, mothers - are very manipulative and controlling.Be prepared.
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reader, Vickidude  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Yeah , it is absolutely right and there is nothing wrong for an Indian man to marry a white woman. My parents would be happy if I marry the one I love regardless whether she is a White or Black , and I know many Indians won't have any problem in that. But finally, it comes down to the personal beliefs of the family, some parents may interfere (but these kind of parents exist in every culture lol) , and if they do then the man gets tested for whether he can stand by his love.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Well Liz Hurley married that Arun guy who is Indian. Obviously if there is some cultural dissaproval, not everyone makes themselves a victim to it.
Why don't you just ask him tho? No need to come across like you want to marry him, ..but you could just ask stuff about his culture, family traditions, what his parents would think abut you dating, ...stuff like that, and you should be able to get all your answers in a casual convo type of way.
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