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writes:My boyfriend can only have sex with the lights on. He doesn't know how anyone can do it if they "can't see anything." Is this normal? Do most men actually prefer doing it with the lights on? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I think I will ask for a compromise and put on the candles. And it's nice knowing that my guy does want to see me!
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reader, THONGPRINCESS24 +, writes (18 July 2007):
 i think also that its because men like to see their woman while they are having sex it is a turn on for them. my boyfriend and i usually light some candles maybe you could try that.
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reader, penta +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Some guys are very visual. My husband sometimes likes it in front of a mirror -- I find it very distracting and keep my eyes closed when we do this. But we do it sometimes, because he likes it a lot.
Compromise: have it on half the time. Or maybe use dim lights. Or get a red light bulb (we used one of these when the baby was in our room so that we could see but not wake him up (not for sex, just to see, lol )); it gives off enough light to see but won't ruin the mood. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): It varies from person to person.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Preferences vary, and I wonder if this is what most men would prefer. But, you know, I think he has a point: he wants to see you. We need visual stimulation. And, maybe he very much likes what he sees.
If you don't like this, maybe you can suggest dimming the lights.
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