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writes:Is it normal not to want a bf? Or to even not be attracted to guys? I feel it not normal coz it does feel weird not to like guys Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): You know it's weird, I'm 23 and I've had three serious GF's and a few short term things, but I been single for about 6 months, I don't want to be in a relationship, I prefer doing my own thing, I got noone to answer too - I thought this was abnormal, but seriously I don't care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Hi there. You are not the only one who feels that way. I'm 25 and I have never dated anyone. I know I could find a boyfriend if I wanted to, but I don't want just any guy and I have never met I guy I was interested in. I'm actually proud that I'm not one of those girls whose whole life revolves around finding a boyfriend. Usually, when I go out to a club or a bar and I look around, and there are so many guys in the room and I can't find a single one I think is cute. I think some people don't feel a strong need to find somebody, like most people do, because they are more than capable to fight for themselves.
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reader, To A New Life  +, writes (20 December 2009):
There is nothing abnormal about you not interested in anyone. In reality, you are very blessed, and smart. You can focus on an education and a career without distractions or drama. Good things are worth waiting for.
I have a daughter your age just like you. Everyone stares and wants her, but she just smiles, says thank you, but she can't. She's focused in college, and knows exactly what she wants, and have told me if she never runs into that someone "special", she's fine with that, but she won't settle. You are not alone, and very smart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx guys. I dont exactly have a picture of a specific guy i would want. And no i cant be lesbian. There were only 2 people i really liked but i didnt want to have a bf. I still dont coz i dont see a need for it. But im just wondering is it gona change? I would want to get married and have kids even though im terried of having kids. I dont even wanna have sex. I am just waiting patiently and letting God's plan for me run its course. But i wanted to see what people thought
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (19 December 2009):
 Im 30 years old and i've dated maybe 6 people in my life. I'm rarely attracted to anyone or anything, I thought this was strange for a while but I think it has something to do with the fact that I have a specific taste in guys rather than not liking any of them.
I sat in a bar once with a friend of mine - we were enjoying a beer and sitting at the window watching the world go by when the subject of who we'd fancy came up. He was pointing out various women and I wasn't pointing out anyone! He said to me that there MUST be ONE person that remotely interested me but alas, not one of them did. I explained to him that my ideal guy is 6 foot tall, skinny with green eyes, dark hair and has some kind of talent. He said that I was being too picky and I probably was.
Anyway, after a few years of being happily single I met the 1 guy who fit the description and we've now been married for years so the wait was worth it.
If you don't feel attracted to guys it isn't a bad thing. You might just have better things to do in life than waste hours drooling over men, and that's a good thing!
If you're happy on your own, then so be it, you don't HAVE to have a man on your arm to enjoy life!
If one comes along that you like later on, then he'll be all the more special for it. Maybe you just arent into guys full stop, but there's nothing wrong with that either.
You are who you are and as long as you're happy, you can be with anyone you like, or nobody at all and not have to feel that it's a bad thing.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 what do you mean?
are you attracted to women?
If you just aren't attracted to anyone then it is one of two things
1) You simply haven't found anyone that you like enough to be attracted to, you might be a little picky, but that isn't a bad thing.
2) You might be asexual, as in impossible to be attracted to someone.
good luck
xx
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