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writes:I have been married a month but have known my husband for 2 years. I cant orgasm with penetration on when he fingers me, is this normal? I have always assumed it is but then he gets upset with me and says its because all i want him to do is finger me and I dont "try" to orgasm with penetration. Am I normal or is he right??
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Well it depends on what we call "normal". If we speak about common situations then it's normal because lots of women can't orgasm through penetrations in our days. If we speak about healthy woman then it's not normal. It's normal when a woman feels orgasm through penetration. There are many methods to improve your situation. I used Sentia for women to be able to have vaginal orgasms and it helped. Others use different creams. So try any supplement or cream you like.
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reader, rhino  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 a lot of women dont come through penetration,what you and your partner could try is bring you to a orgasm either using his fingers,oral or toys(thats if you like using them,once you have come,get him to start again to bring you to another one,when you feel you are getting close to another orgasm,get hin to enter you,if you can start to keep gently rubbing yourself,while he is making love to you,you should more or less come while he is in you,try getting some books from the internet,it should help,but what is best is expermenting together,but dont be afaid to say what you like being done,hope you enjoy your future together
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): hi I usually cum by having him talk dirty to me. and by me responding back it really helps to stimulate the both of you. I hope this helped. good luck.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Hi
Perfectly normal. 30% of women will orgasm through penetration alone. The rest need clitoral stimulation.
Have fun.
C xxxxx
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (28 August 2007):
 That is COMPLETELY normal...i want you to know that most woman can not orgasm by having sex...60% of women can not orgasm through sex. So do whatever works for you. However, keep trying. One major reason why women cant orgasm through intercourse is because their mind is not in it. Your mind really needs to be in it when it comes to intercourse.
If your husband is getting upset about let him talk to a doctor and let the dr. explain to your husband its not him or you its just how some peoples bodies work.
Dont stress it!
~dee
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (28 August 2007):
 You are completely normal. I have heard that only 30% of women can orgasm with penetration. I personally cant. I cant even orgasm with fingering. The only way for me to achieve orgasm is with clitoral stimulation. I have to say that while the clit is what is going to make me cum, penetration (finger or penis) is what makes me crazy. Even though I dont cum, I prefer penetration, maybe throw some clitoral stimulation in there so that I can cum. So for me penetration without orgasm is just fine, but orgasm without penetration just lacks something.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Many women don't orgasm with penile penetration. However, I do believe it is something that can happen if you give it some time.
Although you're not orgasming with penile penetration, you can orgasm when he fingers you. That's probably because his fingers can curve to hit all the right "spots" which bring you to orgasm. Don't fret. There are positions that you might consider trying and having fun with when there is penile penetration. Have fun exploring those positions and find the ones that hit the right "spots" which bring you to orgasm.
And remember, orgasm is partly psychological too. If you're expecting orgasm not to happen, then it probably won't.
Hope this helps.
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