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writes: hey aunts, i'm just wonderin. is it normal to sometimes have doubts about your partner? i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we've had our ups and downs and he's hurt me heaps before but we've gotten back together becoz thats what we always do *rolls eyes* although the last time he hurt me, we worked things out and we were perfect and i mean i was so back in love with him and he ruined it again i feel like he wanted to hurt me. at the time i felt so emotionally and physically connected to him, and he goes off and does somethin like that. anyways, after it happened. we got back together and i hav been having on n off doubts ever since, we were on a break for about 2 months where i told him i didn't know what i wanted and what was best for us and he's been extremely good ever since and now that we're back together he's even better =S he said to me "i've been so good lately but you haven't even thanked me or acted like you appreciate it" and it's true i probably haven't but i feel like no matter how good he is i can't go back to how i felt before, or if i will? will i? i dunno! =( i just haven't been so hurt by him in my entire life, and typical me i have told him about it a few times but i kind of put on a face and act like everything is okay but it's truly killing me inside. what should i do? i feel like i can't let go or i can't be bothered because we'll end up back together somehow. or i mite regret it, so how can i be sure, whatever decision i make is the right one?plz give more detail than 'you'll just know'
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (12 October 2008):
hiyah, youve been through so much ever thought maybe this should be it? for you both? having doubts is normal but you doubt your entire relationship this tells you something. he blames you for a lot showing a bad side of his personality, one you shouldnt just accept. yeah hes been good to you lately thats what hes sposed to do! espicially when he was in the wrong!? dont you feel bad for it. this guy is wreckin you emotinally and you keep letting him, hes using you and now he knows he can get away with it- tell him different- dont be anybodys push over you need to be strong, i think whats best for you is to let this one go so you can rebuild who you once were.
dont let him take any more of you just say your goodbyes, i know its not as easy as that and its goin to hurt so bad for some time but it will be the best for you in the end.
only you will know whats best for you (sorry you didnt want to hear that) but no one can decide for you you need to do this now and for yourself,
best of luck
hope this mght ov helpped x :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): The first thing you need to do is open up to him. Putting on a face is not going to help situation. You have to be open and let him know what is happening. If you want things to go back to before, you have to communicate.
Communication will allow him to give you his feelings on it. He probably has an explanation for each time he's hurt you. Allow him that. Tell him you need to hear why.
Once you hear why, you will be more sure of why you should move on, or why you should stay.
Tita
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