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writes: is it normal to hate making out? i love to make out, being 24 im pretty much at my prime. my fiancee on the other hand is 30. says making out is for teenagers. weve made out once....in the year we were together. all i get is 3 small pecks on the lips. i want more....already lack of sex. he brags about his experimental girls....the mouth to mouth and the other kind. well i said maybe i should just be the experimental then....well an hour later he actually stuck his tongue in my mouth. now its back to small pecks.....i dont get it. he just seems selfish....with kissing and sex. its his way or no way when i complain its just pity kisses or pity sex so i dont dump him. im just confused on it all...sex and kissing. how can i be so attractive but not barely kissable and barely f**kable??!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have talked. before we got together he bragged about his makeout sessions with his ex, but with me he wont even try. weve talked about sex but he likes it the way it is he says, he also says hes not a freak so anything like role playing, dressing up, toys, positions is out of the question. i just still dont get it. never had problems or complaints from past men, shoot still have some begging me for more to this day. but even longer kisses would do, just hate the hello goodbye quick pecks!!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 It is not normal to hate making out, but then again it is unusual to still want to be "making out" so to speak in your mid-late 20's. I find with all relationships, you tend to kiss a lot at the start before you have slept together, then once sex is on the cards that takes over from kissing. I know when I first met my boyfriend, we would "make out" all the time. But now we have been together 5 months, that has slowed down and we still kiss a lot, but more like pecks on the lips etc. I dont really miss the "making out" part so much, I did enjoy it when I was a teenager but now it doesnt really bother me that much.
So I think while he should be more forthcoming in terms of sex with you (after all, if a relationship is lacking sex then that indicates some major problems), I dont actually think it is that bigger deal that he doesnt want to "make out".
I guess you just need to sit down with him and have a serious talk about this - complaining is not the right way to go about it and it will only make you seem whiny. You need to sit down with him and explain exactly how his behaviour makes you feel, and what you would like to see happen. At this point be realistic - dont suggest you have sex daily and must make out at least once a day otherwise he will just get annoyed. Ask him how he feels about sex with you, and whether there is anything you can do to make him enjoy it more. You need a proper adult conversation where there is no complaining or moaning about the way things are, you just need to state clearly and simply that you are not happy with the way things are and want to work together to try and change the situation.
If he still wont talk about it, and carries on the way he is then maybe you have to think that you are not sexually compatible, and if so then you have to decide if you can spend the rest of your life with a man where you are not sexually compatible? That could be the case - some people just have higher sex drives than others and there is not a lot you can do about it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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