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writes:Is it a normal to feel really close to someone when holding there hand ? it was the first time that I held anyone's hand and it made me feel so special and wanted by someone especially because it was like a first date and I was getting to know him unaware I would eventually get feelings for him and ever since then ive wondered why It felt like an intimate moment for me holding his hand and I always wanted to hold his again when I saw him but daren't ever ask him . has anyone else felt this way when holding someone's hand ? ive also never had any intimate moments with anyone so I cling on this moment and I'm not sure if holding hands is intimate or not for anyone else and it makes me feel a bit strange that I really enjoyed it . I also felt really bad that at times I pushed him away when he wanted to hug me or hold my hand again and I don't know how to get better at physical contact as he asked if I would kiss him and I really wanted to him but was a little hesitant . ive never had physical contact or a boyfriend before so every time I meet someone I just don't know how to deal with the situation and when someone went to kiss me I bit his nose but not intentionally and don't want this to happen again when I meet someone else . Reply to this Question
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reader, Bazil  +, writes (27 July 2018):
Depends on who's hand it is but in your situation absolutely. That visual moment of having someone you fancy stretch out their arm to take your hand is a rush too. Holding hands represents togetherness and thats a nice feeling. No one knows how to deal with things the first time. Some are better than others but you don't know until you are in the moment. I smashed teeth with my first kiss. If you are inexperienced just try keep it simple and slow until you gain some confidence. It's ok to say you are a little nervous because no matter what age or experience nervousness comes with all new relationships. Enjoy the ride
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (27 July 2018):
IT’s totally normal. It’s a gesture of closeness and intimacy. IT can be between friends, but when it’s someone to whom you’re attracted it’s even more enhanced by the flood of chemicals that make you want to be close to that person all the time. We’re programmed to desire closeness to someone we’re attracted to. That’s why new couples often can’t keep their hands off each other in all kinds of ways.
Over time hand-holding may change in how it feels. It might lead to less of a rush of excitement and more of a deep contentedness as relationships mature and evolve. But it’s a loving act of closeness, so it’s going to feel nice in some way.
I wish you all the very best.
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