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writes:Dear Agony Aunts, I've grown really close to my girlfriend over the last few weeks and we recently started experimenting with each other - taking steps.Today, we went to third base, she gave me a hand job, at which point I was very VERY turned on, and I came in less than a minute which confused me big time and now I feel really embarrassed because that's just unusual isn't it?! I've never gone this far with a girl before and it's really worried because I'm afraid I'll be like it again. My question is this: is it normal to cum so quick for your first time of getting really intimate?Thanks a lot for anyone who reads and answers this.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (3 July 2010):
Yes, that's quite normal.
Have you and your G/F had any discussions about when it will be appropriate to have intercourse? Please know each other's feelings about this, and respect each other's limits. You can get a lot of pleasure and satisfaction by limiting yourselves to the handjobs, fingering, etc you are enjoying now - and you'll have less to confess, or regret, if you two don't go on to marry each other. My wife was intent on being a wedding-night virgin (I didn't feel quite as strongly about this, but agreed it wasn't a bad idea) and we used these non-intercourse techniques during our engagement, to help us meet those goals and keep our promises to each other. In the long run, I think that all the necking, petting, etc we did actually helped us learn about making love with each other and improved our long-term sexual satisfaction.
When you are both ready for sexual intercourse make allowance for your quick response. If your G/F is understanding and considerate of your situation she will help you to an orgasm just before you start to enter her. That will help you last longer once you're inside her. Or, she may actually prefer you to climax quickly the first time she receives you - most women experience physical discomfort during their actual first intercourse and prefer a shorter period of stroking. (But they REALLY ENJOY the foreplay leading up to it, and the intimacy afterwards.)
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest +, writes (27 June 2010):
 You're new to it, you're excited.
My friend's boyfriend prematurely ejaculated the first time they had intercourse. She'll find it amusing, but not unusual.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Yes, it is quite normal. I consider it a complement if the man comes fast. It just means it was THAT good, he couldn't help himself.
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reader, yag +, writes (26 June 2010):
of course, once you get used to being intimate with her you will be able to last longer.
don't be embarrassed, it's natural.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Of course it's normal, you haven't built up a resistance to sexual pleasure. Masterbate more, that will help you build up a resistance and last longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): Completely normal, and she should be thrilled that she has that effect on you. Also, it will change over time and you will be able to last longer.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Absolutely!
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reader, Charleybabes0811 +, writes (26 June 2010):
Don't worry! not only is it easier on the girls hand, but you'll get better before sex. You'll last longer each time :D
Dont worry mate
hope it works out :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 June 2010):
Yes, it is. Perfectly normal. Just relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): Yes - perfectly normal.
I've been known to cum in my pants when kissing a new girl. Most embarassing, but it happens.
When you've spent some time with her you'll get used to being with her and it won't happen as quickly. One good reason for having one lasting relationship rather than several short-term ones.
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