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writes:hi there, i'm a 16 year old lad and i feel as though i'm in love with my friend. she somehow makes me feel alive and more happy, something that i've never felt like for other girls i've got to know. but the thing is she's coming up for 22 and i have no idea how she feels for me except for the simple fact that the age gap between us at this very moment in time is a huge problem. so i would just like to know how would i know what she's feeling (without asking her) and when the age gap between us won't be a problem anymore! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAwww thank you very much Gabriella (loveprincess) that's helped me a lot thank you :-)
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reader, loveprincess +, writes (16 March 2009):
 you need to wait a bit if she feels for you then she will wait for you if she doesnt then you deserve better than her
good luck
i hope this helped
Gaabriella
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes you're right, i completely understand the fact that i shouldn't take it any further than friendship at this moment in time and she possibly will be married by the time i reach my early twenties too.I really do try to put her at the back of my mind but for some reason i just can't, like i say she makes me feel something other girls don't. i liked her once before and that did put our friendship in an awkward position. Then i put her to one side in my head for awhile but now those feelings i had before have arisen once again.Going off what I've heard from she said a while back and then what my mum said recently, she would give us a go if i were a few years older. But unfortunately the cards that I've been dealt are against me.I'm not getting my hopes up (mainly because i did that last time and it didn't do any good what so ever) but i will wait and see what the future has to bring.But thank you very much for your advice and for taking the time to answer, thank you.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Well I think that she probably likes you as a friend but no more than that, she is just too old for you and wont feel that sort of attraction towards you. I'm 21 and very nearly 22, and when I think about my younger male friends I see them more like my little brothers rather than someone I would want to date! So I guess she probably feels something along those lines I'm afraid.
I reckon you would need to be about 20-22 before she might even consider dating you. That would make her 26-28 and maybe by then she might have got married and settled down. Women very rarely go for younger men, because women mature a lot faster than men. A woman in her twenties wouldnt want to be dating a guy in his teens, so you would have to at the least be 20 before the age gap stops being such a problem.
I think it is very sweet that you have a crush on your friend, but you need to leave it at that. If you tell her or try and make a move you could end up losing her as a friend, so just try and stop thinking about her in any other way other than as a friend. She would feel pretty bad if she knew about your crush and probably stop speaking to you in case you felt like you were being lead on by her.
I think you need to try and put this girl to the back of your mind, and if you really want a girlfriend then look at some girls closer to your own age, you will have much more success there!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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