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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Is it normal that I like him to control me during intercourse? He's very dominant and tells me what do do and I like it! Is this normal? It never leaves the bedroom, but still... Reply to this Question
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (7 February 2007):
its quite normal for women to fantasise the 'innocent' role. infact in lots of surveys womens most common fantasies include being tied up, sex with a forceful stranger and being blindefolded.
my current gf has a big thing about being tied up, as long as its done safely and doesnt distress either party then wheres the harm.
and why the advice to keep it in the bedroom?, spontaneous people, spice of life lol
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reader, depaiva  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 You've got nothing to worry about and in my books it's absolutely normal-as long as it doesn't leave the bedroom. As long as your relationship is 50/50 thing then its fine.
A lot of women find it a turn on to be submissive in bed (I know-I'm one of them).
By letting him control you it allows you to do things you wouldn't otherwise do, or that you to embarrassed to initiate yourself. And in the end if you feel comfortable and you are a willing participant and you're enjoying it then there's nothing to feel bad about or weird about.
Women have been socialized into the "romantic love making" as the only acceptable way to have intercourse. I personally believe this has hindered us from fully expressing our sexuality, and by allowing him to be domineering it allows to express your sexuality in a less guilty was. So what you feeling is probably a little guilty for allowing yourself to feel this pleasure but you shouldn't. Let yourself go and enjoy it ;-) and try not to feel weird afterwards
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reader, jabey +, writes (7 February 2007):
I think this is very normal, think it goes back to our original roots. The caveman, cavewomen times. We women like to be the softer caring role, and see the man as the strong domineering hunter. In life today our roles as men and women have become so intertwined that we loose our feminity. So therefore in the bedroom we can become true women again.
I adore it when my man is in charge in fact he does it all the time in the bedroom, it makes me feel really turned on, he is the man and I am the woman.
So the answer is its very normal, enjoy you have nothing to be concerned about, have fun!!
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