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writes:Hey, I'd love some male and female perspectives on this please - I've been with my bf 10 months, everything is going great, and recently he's started saying he'd like me to move in with him, that he hopes we will 'settle down' (i.e., have a family) together, and has said several times that he hopes we will get married in the future. This all makes me very happy! I think he means it, but what I'd like to know is, is that the kind of thing a person might say to you before they properly ask you to marry them? Like, would they drop hints/talk about it first? I'm trying not to get too happy/excited about things, and need some grounding, I think?Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Ok well first of all - you have only been together 10 months, it is far too soon to be getting married or moving in together so just try and relax and slow down a bit.
It is prefectly normal to talk about the future and get excited about it - any couple still in the honeymoon phase of a relationship like you are will talk a lot about the future and what you want to do.
But talking about the future doesnt mean he is going to propose any time soon, I'm sure he does mean it but he will be talking about some time in the future, not in a months time or anything like that.
Just relax and enjoy the relationship, it is still very new so dont worry too much about serious committments like moving in together and marriage, take your time and enjoy what you have. When the time is right I'm sure he will propose, he might drop hints or he might not (depending on what kind of guy he is and how good he is at keeping a secret!) but it doesnt matter because he shouldnt be proposing any time soon, it is way too early for anything like that. Enjoy what you have now and in time I'm sure you will get your proposal, but until then dont think about it too much and make the most of what you have right now.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): sounds wonderful it really does and you no what u should propose to him after a year and see what he says it be an bit arward for a while if he says no but least u no what wave lenghts ur both on. also shows if ur wasting ur time as well
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