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writes: Hi there. My and my bf of almost 18 months have just recovered from a massive argument. Basically what started it is that I tried to initiate sex last night and he didn't want to. We had had a few drinks at home and I asked him if he still fancied me as we don't have sex as much as we did, and it isn't as good. He said 'yeah but not as much as I did when we first met.'My question is, is this normal, to stop fancying someone as much and is this more a guy thing? I suppose if I was being totally honest then yeah, i do fancy him a bit less too, but only a bit...Also, we are trying for a baby and the sex has become more perfunctory and he has admitted that when we have sex now it is more about wanting to get me pregnant.So, and i would like some replies from guys too please, is it normal to not fancy your partner as much after some time? I know he really loves me but I also know that he does not get the 'phroar' factor when he looks at me. For the record I am attractive, not stunning, size 12 (8 in America) and 38 years old. He's 37. Also he is a very honest person and constantly puts his foot in his mouth by speaking before he thinks!Thanks for reading. Help please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi. Yeah, thanks for that. I have realised that I over-reacted. I guess it is normal but I sometimes wish it wasn't! I live in a dream world sometimes.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (6 June 2011):
Hey - I was in a relationship for 14 years and yes it does fade down - once a week was about what it was later in the relationship. The reason is many boredom - you do the same things over and over again after a while - its good for both of you but it is the same things.
You can try different things just to see if you like them - anal sex, role playing, light bondage, sex in parks etc. Im sure there are heaps of other things also...I'm too naieve to know them ;-)
Actually I found having sex for baby really nice because we used to use condoms as protection so I never came inside her and when we were having children thats what you do so it was good....
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