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writes: Ever been out in public or known someone who is SUPER outgoing. You don't even know the person, and they just start a conversation like they are your BFF. People just like them right off the bat?I want to be like that. Since I have been in sales, I got out of my shell alot, b/c I have to generally start a conversation. Althought I am awesome in my workforce, but when it comes to outside of work. I am somewhat outgoing but more shy. Some days I'll start up a conversation in the Grocery store line. But...when it comes to meeting my friend's friends, meeting people in college, or just in general situations I tend to get really shy, and I don't know how to include or...start a conversation with someone.How can I gain this skill? I want to be the annoying bubbly, outgoing, everyone loves, kinda of girl.I know it has to do with ALOT of confidence. However-there is times I have confidence and theres time when I don't. I just don't know how to learn this skill in being confident with myself, and being comfortable in talking too people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): You say you are comming out of your shell, and thats good, keep trying to strike up conversations, keep convo, light and simple. Talk about the weather to strike up a convo, or something that may have happened in the news, so that the other person can equally contribute to the convo.
As long as you are a confident person and just talking to people, well thats all that counts in my opinion. You dont need to be the life and soul of a party, or "the bubbly person".
Sometimes its always good to hold back just a little of your personality, until you really get to know the person better. It makes people curious and want to get to know you more. A little bit of mystery is good it keeps people interested.
Bubbly,chatty people that are life and soul of the party are not always happy people, they are just good at putting on a front. So really as long as you feel confident enough to talk to people, feel good about yourself and you're happy, isnt that all that counts?!! Why try to be like anybody else?!
All the best.x
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 I was at this bar once chilling with my girls...and I saw a group of girls who came out of a limousine. they came and sat at the table next to us. I wanted to strike up a convo so I went to them,said "Hey ladies" and then complimented one girl on her dress. she said to me "im so glad u came and talked to us,usually girls are hostile and give us a weird look" So we chatted it up and then introduced them to my girls. it was fun.
always stay positive,have a nice thing to say, do not complain....
another line is "Well I dont know what to say to you but you look super cool and i just wanted to say hi"...the other person will be flattered to hear that and most likely the convo will start from there.
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