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writes:I'm 39, happily married with four boys. My old love found me on Facebook. It was just an internet talk and It's over now. But why can't I just forget him? He's constantly on my mind. The feeling is so hard. He's also married. What should I do?
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reader, CASTLE  +, writes (29 November 2009):
I think you can find your answer in some of Nancy Kalish's studies. Google...lost loves.I reunited with a lost love recently. I wish I had not. We re-awakened feelins that did not need to be resurrected. Now we are both longing to be with each other again. We are both married and I do not want to go down this road. Be careful. Put your feelings into your relationship you now have. BEWARE!!! LET IT GO. DO NOT GO BACK. IT WILL RUIN the life you have now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): focus on gratitude for how lucky you are to have had this person in your life, what a blessing it is to have been loved and the positive influence you have both had on one another... and then commit to remaining a positive influence for each other by not ruining anything you have now. He wouldn't want that for you and you wouldn't want that for him.Sometimes people just come back into our lives to let us know we were loved and that's all. Receive that gift with humility and know that you have returned the blessing in kind and focus on the completion of that exchange... and then start something new and positive in your live to commemorate it, to honor that influence and use the energy... Maybe a new hobby, a new book that is unlike anything you've ever had an interest in before or maybe something you've forgotten about... maybe something fun you've been meaning to do with or for your husband forever and just never did. Just mix up your routine and use that positive energy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): You will never forget your old love, and by the sounds of it he will never forget you, Please, go right up to your husband and give him a big hug and kiss, remind yourself why you married him, your precious babies, without him you would never have them...I stopped doing this and thought of my "old love" forever, and dwelled on it..yes these were beautiful people that we were fortunate to have in our lives, but there is a reason why we didn't end up with them,,my marriage now is very rocky, because my husband maybe didn't feel I was giving him attention, maybe I could of given him 100% attention problem 60% I was thinking about "What could of been, with a person who didn't ask me to marry him, for a reason" Get it.....
Take care Hun
Please embrace your beautiful famiy, if your husband has never betrayed, Love him with all your heart, really embrace him with a bit SMOOCH AND LOVE THAT MAN!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK HUN
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reader, hello1  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 um, just forget about him. It was just one talk on the internet. You should really work on your marriage
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