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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, well in my situation is about my family they blame me for everything thats wrong or if somthing bad happens and then they start screaming and shouting and arguing all through the day and make me feel guilty and pick on me and on top of all this they beat me up and when i answer back they get even more angry and hit me or do my heading and sometimes i get threats like they'll chuck me out the house or they say i should kill myself it will be for the best. So 24 7 theres something that could always be blamed on me even if i didn't do it or say anything and also when me and my brother argue he sometime gets violent and starts kicking me and punching me and when i hit him back i get stopped and then i get hit again by someone. Even my sister hits me but my other sister use to take my side before and stop this all happening but now she don't she argues with me as well alot and just now she argued with me, and even my brother asked a question and i never knew the answer cause it was a stupid question and i go ask your sister and she told the answer but in a very rude ill mannered way and i told her it wasnt my question so don't be like that with me and my mum gets all moody and starts speaking really loud and shouts at me .Not long ago my older sister did hit me when i asnwered her back but again evryone takes her side not mine. What can i do to stop this? And is this happening to me just because i'm the smallest in the family? by da way i'm 13. Is this all normal? Also this all happened yesterday as well and i think its going to happen even more regualry then before. Please help. Any advice would be nice. Also my family say that i answer back to them when they hit me beacuse of the people i am friends with at school but i'm friends with lots of people and there not bad people. And my close friend i be with always and she's nothing close to bad, Is this just a way to balme me and someone else or something else. Plus is it ok for my family to hit me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): Hi, well yup i have started my periods but i aint on them, and when i am it aint this bad its just a lil disagreement thats it, but anyways thing are getting better.
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reader, AnnaW219 +, writes (18 November 2007):
 i youst to go through the egsact same it is i no this is a personal question but have you started your period if yes this could be the cause of you thinking veryone is aginst you and if they beat you up as you say then this is wrong extreamly dont answer back though that gets you in a lot of trouble trust me ive been through this dont try and kill your self chick it aint worth it
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (18 November 2007):
 Hello hunny, yes it appears to be normal, but its NOT ok. Ask your form teacher to make you an appointmen with the school councillor, tellher everything you told us, she will be bale to help you. You can see her in shool time so that your family doesnt know about it.
Meanwhile at home, keep your head down, if one of your bro's sis's start on you, walk away, go to your room, go to another room, go outside, stand by your mum, anyting, just stay out of their wa. its not your fault and you shouldnt have to, but if you dont let them put you in the situatin then they cant make it worse. Its also against the law now, finally, for your mum to hit you. if you canno speak to a councillor you can phone childline and they can give you a tonne of advise.
One thing I always found hlped when my mum hit me, was to put myslef outsde of myself if you understand, so it was like she was hitting someone else and i was watching. if/when one of them hits/kicks you, ry not to scream in pain, keep as straight a face as you can, dont make eye contact and walk away. 9 times out of ten you will be crying on your bed, but they wont have the satisfaction of getting a reaction out of you. The reaction is what they want so dont give it to them.
This will be hard at first, the first time I did it, my mum chased me, beat down my door with an axe and used the handle accross my back. Bt after that she calmed down a bit as I was consistant.
ABOVE ALL dont answer back, dont say I dint do it, dont argue at all, dont say anything just walk away.
its easier said than done but I have faith you can d it. and please please dont ake any notice of the threats and the why dont you just dies. its just words, if you let them get to you they will scar, if you let them go over your headthey will become what thy are, idle threats and meaningless words.
Most important in all this you HAVE to talk to someone, a councillor is your first port of call.
Good luck hunny, I wish I could be there by your side. xxxxx
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