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writes:I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for four years he has younger sisters one is my age and the other is 17. Anyway when me and my boyfriend first started going out we would always go out with them and i would notice him staring at their butt but i didn't think much of it since i really liked him and he would stare at mine too. We stopped going out with them as much due to we all work and go to school so now we don't have time.But i always notice him looking at their butts when we go to their house they wear really short tight shorts(sometimes part of their butt even comes out a little when they walk) all the time and their butts are like amazingly big, like kim kardashian im not kidding haha. Mine is just normal size and it has recently starting to bother me, because i noticed he never stares at mine anymore but always checks out theirs, is this normal, and what should i do? sometimes i let us walk in front of them purposely but feel foolish its starting to make me feel insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): The reason he checks out his sister's butts may be that he grew up with them as little girls, and now they are both at a very sexy age, and the change is noticeable to him. They were little girls before, but now they are sexy girls with big, curvy butts, which he finds attractive. It is instinctively normal for a man to check out a woman's butt, because shapely or big hips are a sign of fertility, which men are evolutionarily programmed to be attracted to. As long as he's not grabbing or slapping them on their butts, there's no harm in him looking.
You might try talking to his sisters and ask them if they notice that he stares at their butts, and how they feel about that. I know this might sound weird, but one way for him to get this out of his system migth be for them to just let him see their bare butts, or let him see them in just their bra & thongs, so he can get it out of his system once and for all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionORIGINAL POSTER- Lol.. You all are silly, when we go to the stores there is mirrors everywhere i can see him behind me and he's never looking. I walk in front of him to the side and i can still see him and he looks straight ahead, or in his room or at his house i purposely bent down and turn to see if hes looking and he's not at all. But yeah he goes out of his way to see his sisters butts like lets say they're in the kitchen he goes by there and always when we go out he just stares at that area. He told me he doesn't know why he does it he just can't help it because they look big, but it makes me feel insecure about mine, and i think thats sick as far as i'm concerned none of my brothers cousins etc have sexy bodies nor do i dress that way.my brother never looks at my breasts or butt. But i guess there is nothing i can do, i just believe thats disgusting and he should control himself!
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (7 July 2011):
You're overthinking all this. If a girl is exposing the more intimate areas of her body then any straight guy is going to be attracted to look, sister or not. It does not mean that he is interested in her, just that he noticed her.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (7 July 2011):
how do you know he doesnt stare at your butt he might do but you,ve got your back to him so you wouldnt see also i wouldnt worry maybe he likes big butts
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): You don’t have any eye on back of your head to see when you walk he stares at your butt or not, lol so how do you know?
I think you are getting too much in to it.
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reader, LittleMissy +, writes (7 July 2011):
He's Probably just thinking how much he hates his little sisters dressing like that. He's looking and thinking what other guys will be thinking. And if he's the usual kind of big brother he will absolutely hate the thought of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): I don't think you should feel insecure about your own butt or your brother's relationship with his sisters. I doubt they realize he's doing this. Maybe he doesn't even realize he's doing it.
What makes you think he's checking them out? Does his facial expression change? Does he go out of his way to lean down or turn around to look?
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