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writes:Hi,im hoping to get some advice on a situation. My cousin who is younger and more attractive than myself was spotted by a modelling agency (its not a bogus thing or anything she has had a few jobs)now she will be doing a catwalk for top designers and me and my family have been invitd to go and watch but to be honest it makes me sick to the stomach the thought of having to go and see gorgeous women flaunting themselves.I am happy for her but obviously a little jelous and i feel so down since i found out.It doesnt help that my mum and dad are so proud of her hence it makes me wonder what have i ever achieved??Then i kind of get angry at myself.Im not ugly but not tall enough or a size 6 to be a model. Plus my boyfriend has also been invited and i dont want him to go...i hate the thought of him looking at other women and i keep snapping at him and being nasty when he hasnt done anything wrong!Is it normal for me to feel this angry and jealous?
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reader, Aunt Letty +, writes (1 June 2008):
Repeat after me...I am f***ing amazing who wouldn't want to be me. You need a self-esteem boost. You're a perfectly normal woman. We judge our success on the success of other women around us and boo at their triumph and cheer as they fall. We're a crazy species. Take your boyfriend along but wear some truly amazing underwear that he only gets a glimpse of before you go. Then you can sit there safe in the knowledge that all he's thinking about is getting you home to see more of your underwear, and you'll feel sexy and fabulous and not that bothered about the emaciated ill looking women that you want to throw food at. Be fabulous, be a woman.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 June 2008):
Yes it's perfectly normal, but you need to stop taking it out on your boyfriend.
Every woman secretly dreams that someone will come and tell them they are amazingly beautiful and pay them to wander up and down a catwalk all day.
But honestly, do you really want to be a model, a clothes horse that gets prodded and poked and painted and paraded up and down and told she's fat and made to stand for hours in painful positions and never allowed to sleep properly because she has to be out meeting "clients" (pervy old men) and then up at 5 to do it again and not allowed breakfast because they are trying to make her diet? Oh and then she'll be dumped in a few years because the In-Look has changed, or because she looks older than 22.
You can be jealous and happy for her.... and have a bit more faith in your boyfriend - do you think he would choose a tiny self obsessed twiglet who only eats one meal a week and then throws it up, over you, he gorgeous confident real and emotionally stable girl? I don't.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 I would say that yes, it's normal. I would be crazy jealous if my cousin got picked up for a modeling agency and was suddenly the big, beautiful star walking on a catwalk.
I would say go and support her - because remember. Even though you're jealous and pissed off, she's still family and she did nothing wrong. You should go celebrate with her and enjoy her special day. Invite your boyfriend, because this is a really big deal for her and I'm sure she'd love her family around to support her.
Grumble at home, but still support your family.
xx India
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