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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Recently I've been making many new friends, both male and female. I have never had any male friends before, my contact with guys was limited to small talk with the boys in my class (needless to say I've never had a boyfriend). Lately, I've become close friends with a guy, which is something very new for me. He is a really good guy, we have much in common and we get along great. There is absolutely no sexual chemistry between us, I am not attracted to him at all and I'm pretty sure he feels the same about me. However, when we hang out, he is constantly touching me, for example, playfully wrestling, tickling me, massaging my shoulders and stuff like that. It is making me slightly uncomfortable because I am not used to such a touchy feely relationship with anybody, plus I am very paranoid about my breath and tend to avoid getting too close to other people. Is that much touching normal in a male/female friendship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): Hi, I'm the OP. Thank you for your answers. No he is not gay. I hope he is not interested in anything more than a friendship with me, because I would hate to disappoint him. I have never seen him act like this with any other female friends, but he tells me about girls and stuff (how he is hoping to find a girlfriend, to be more precise). If he is flirting with me, as all of you think he is, I hope he is not doing it intentionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): Judge it by how he treats other female friends that he also knows pretty well.
Some variation from person-to-person is normal. But if his treatment of you is a lot different than he is with other female friends then it's probably a sign of sexual feelings.
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reader, Cyn_sin  +, writes (13 December 2010):
This is not normal. Sounds like he might want more than friendship. If it makes you uncomfortable you should say something.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 This is not typical friendship touching no. This is flirting. I think you might have misread your friends intentions, unless he does the same with all his other friends, or is gay.
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female
reader, kissmebabe +, writes (12 December 2010):
id say this is known as flirting, maybe not intentional but still flirting lol
this may be the friend which u finally get close too :)
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reader, jrns96 +, writes (12 December 2010):
in a normal "jut friends" relationship? no this is not normal. some ppl just enjoy contact. either that or he is romantically interested in u? ask him about it, or at least assure him u want to just be friends
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