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*ryanz
writes:My girlfriend walked into my room without knocking and I was caught doing sexual activity's. After 3 seconds she came directly onto me she started to take off her clothes and I asked her what are you doing because I was scared, I wasn't ready to have that kind of experience with a female. We did have intercourse and I feel really questioned and confused, I regret it. She is only 14 years old and i'm only 13. Is it normal for girls of that age to try that? Is it right? Was it because my parents weren't home? Is it because she wanted to explore me and see if I had experience? All I am asking is what made her do that and if its normal. Reply to this Question
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reader, apathyslastkiss  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Oh my God man, are you serious? You're 13 and you're having sex? That is not good man. You were right to not feel ready - because you shouldn't be ready, and frankly, neither should she. You're so young!! Don't mess around with that stuff yet - ESPECIALLY since you're not prepared for mentally either. I'm 21 and holding out. Sex is for when you've committed yourself fully to another woman. I would let her know how you felt. And I would not make this a regular habit. And if for some reason you keep on doing this, for goodness sakes, wear a condom. Are you ready to be a father to a child? If not, then why are you having sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): the kinsey study on human sexuality said there is no normality in sex. however there ARE LAWS regarding age which btw you are breaking (if u live in the US) there is also 'morality' which basically means there are people who would disapprove of what u r doing. summing up if u feel bad about it then it's bad if u ignore laws & morality they have a way of catching up with u (or not). good luck
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reader, Kenziexxx  +, writes (20 November 2008):
Can I just ask.. if it was so spontaneous does that mean it was unprotected!? At 14 that's a bit risky! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): You are very lucky that she didn't react repulsed by what you were doing as many women of all ages would not react so positively. It's a beautiful thing to do and share with someone you love and can be highly erotic but there is a certain level of trust and passion that comes before a couple can get to that place. I hope that you are able to find that with someone when you are older.
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reader, naninu  +, writes (18 November 2008):
 you know girls need sex 70 percent than that of male which is very high,when compared to male,
thus both you and your girlfriends are nearly 14 years old
it is not normal for girls of that age to try that as u say
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): Just thank the gods that she didn't freak out.
Do you have any idea how many women of any age will freak out when they catch a guy firing off some knuckle children?
You got a girl who is gonna be a heap of fun as you get older and decided that what you really want from life is to bone women.
Now you don't even have too look... you go one right there.
Seriously, this doesn't even bare bitching about. Just hold your head up high and take it in stride, because not many get their ends in this early.
But cool it down now. I don't mean stop making out or anything. Just take it more slowly now. Otherwise by the time you can do this shit without trouble, you'll have nothing left to do.
Flynn 24
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reader, Bryanz +, writes (18 November 2008):
Bryanz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell. Thanks for the advice you to, but may I should have probly should have added another detail:
It was not sexual assult, I let her. And I find it sorta hurtful Emilysanswers abouyt saying don't see her again. I've been with her for 13months, noway im gunna break up with her. But thanks to you both.
Add more answers if you have more suggestions or if you agree with them.
-Thanks Dearcupid, you helped me through a lot of troubling problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): Perfectly normal. When she saw you doing that, she got a big urge to try it with you. Kind of exciting...But while she may have been carried away by curiosity and the excitement of the moment, you obviously weren't ready for what happened. You probably shouldn't have done it. It's too late now, but I suggest you don't try this again until you get older and are ready for it.Now that it's happened once, I suspect she'll look for chances to do it again. That wouldn't be a good idea. You'll gradually feel more and more under pressure. Apart from feeling guilty and bad about yourself, you may find yourself reacting badly to her. I suggest cooling it.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 November 2008):
She did it because she saw you and wanted you.
However if you told her to stop and she didn't then she committed sexual assault.
Don't see her again and talk to someone about this if you need to.
Good Luck!! xx
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