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writes:I wenr on date with a 21 year old (Im 17). We met over the internet. The date didn't go as I planned. i was nervous but we held hands. He was nice and sweet, opened the car door for me and paid for my movie ticket. That night, he told me he was happy his ex dumped him because he met me. I thought we ended on a good note.. however, he isn't the same anymore. He won't even text me... I've known this guy for 2 1/3 weeks now. I have been crying because I feel rejected and I don't do well with rejection. I feel like it was my fault.. I was starting to actually like this guy and he seemed nice. I just don't know what to think anymore..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 Did you meet him on a dating site ?
Because that's what happens quite often: people set up multiple dates ( well, after all this is the point of the thing : meeting different people ). Like, they'll have 3 or 4 dates in a week.
The first ( you ) was good, or good enough- but the second was better. Or else he wants to see all the candidates before making up his mind.
It's like a casting call, an audition. "Don't call us , we'll call you ". Some times they do, some times they don't.
The problem is that a performer gets used very quickly to not take rejection personally, it's part of the job.
But transferring this attitude to relationship matters.... heck, I could not do it and I am way older and probably tougher :) than you.
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (30 November 2010):
well i don't think its reasonable for anyone to trust a person who we have met on the internet. i mean we actually don't know the real personality of that person. and you have already went a day with after 2 1/2 weeks. that what actually happen to you. you fail to understand that person. make sure that people whom we meet on dating site are not really ready for a life commitment.
the reason for him keeping distant might me due to these 2 reasons :-
1. he did not expect you to be as you are. maybe physically he thought you would be damn beautiful.
2. he thought you would have let him make out with you. once he met you, he have seen that you are not an easy girl so let it go.
girl he is someone you met online and only for 2.5 weeks. try forgetting him and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): We all don't like to feel rejected. Give him a call (not text) and let him know you wanted to say hi since you hadn't heard from him in a few days. If he doesn't pick up leave a message. Don't talk about the date and don't ask him to call. Just leave a hi message.
He'll call back if he is still interested.
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