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writes:My ex boyfriend and I have been on and off for about a year. When he broke up with me at the beginning of this year I decided I was stuck in a sick cycle and I didnt want to get back together again.So within a month, he realised he made a mistake but I was already seeing someone else. My ex and I agreed to be friends, but the longer I went out with my current boyfriend, the more bitchy and spiteful my ex got towards me. I had enough and deleted him off IM and havent contacted him since then.However he got a new girlfriend and now he shows up everywhere I'm going to. He also at a time spread rumours about me to try get my boyfriend to break up with me. And he goes to friends of mine and brags about how awesome and amazing his life is now. And just plays games to try to make me sms him or phone him and confront him.I'm just so sick of it all, I do my best not to butt into his life but right now I dont understand why he is doing this. Please help its been going on for over 9 months now and I want to know if its ever going to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): I think he is trying to make you jealous, and he is trying to get a reaction from you. I think the best thing you can do is ignore him as much as you can. I know this is difficult, and it must be so annoying for you. But don't stoop down to his level. He wants to try and provoke you, so just keep your head up and carry on with your life. He is no longer anything to do with your life, just an annoying pest who is looking for attention. If you continue to carry on and ignore him, he may get bored of his game and leave you alone. Like I said, I know it is not easy. If you start to feel worried, or like he is harassing or stalking you though, then it might be worth speaking to the police, just to let them know what is going on. If he steps too far, they can warn him to keep away from you. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): Maybe you Should confront him.
Its pretty evident he's not over you. Maybe by resuming friendship, he harbored hope of getting together ? And you don't seem to be inclined to that. (I presume)
So maybe the best thing is to confront him and tell him what you think of the issue.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Unfortunately there's not much you can do without him getting what he wants (which is for you to confront him)
I assume your current bf didn't believe these rumors that your ex spread around? All you can do is show everyone that you're the better person here, and that you wont let his childish behaviour knock you down. Let him throw his toys out of the pram, you've moved on from him now...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): He is immature and jealous. He broke up with you, then you go on and get a new boyfriend. Of course, he thought you would be heartbroken, never get over him, let alone find a new love! It is a simple as that. It's pathetic really. Just ride it out. Do nothing really to respond. In time it will die down. Don't lower yourself to his level.
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