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writes:Hey, so I'll make this short and sweet. I needed a second opinion, because my friend said that this was a bad idea.Last week when I was over at my boyfriend's house I left my FAVORITE guitar pick necklace, it's my absolute favorite necklace because my best friend got it for me a long time ago.So the next day my boyfriend told me I left it there and would wear it to keep it safe. But when I went back yesterday, I let him wear it so I wouldn't lose it. Before I left he made a comment saying, "Thanks for letting me have this, I'm going to wear it all the time." I mean, it's sweet... but the last time I gave him something as a keepsake he lost it...So, what I wanted to do was get him a custom engraved guitar pick necklace that says, "I'd pick you everytime." That way it's more personalized. I was gonna do that for Christmas anyway, haha.Is that a bad idea? Or should I just let him keep my necklace? (I know it's silly...) It's just that when my friend got that for me, it was special because her and I don't keep in touch anymore.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (27 October 2014):
 Take back your necklace because it has grater sentimental value to you than to him, BUT don't make a big thing of it because I suspect he'll come up with excuses (including how he suddenly can't find it). I think your best bet is to seize the opportunity when it presents itself, like taking it back and hiding it in your purse when he's in the shower or something. Then when it's safe at home you can be casual and honest about it. If he asks you can say 'Yes, I did take it. You remember me saying I forgot it at your place'
That said, don't allow this to become an issue. It may have sentimental value, but it is a material thing. THINGS can be replaced.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 October 2014):
 OH HELL TO THE NO!
Do not let him bully you into keeping your necklace.
RIGHT NOW you say "I'm glad you like it and I'll be happy to get you one FROM me to YOU but THAT particular one means more to me than it ever will to you so GIVE IT BACK NOW!"
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 October 2014):
 Should you "just" let him keep it? NO. It's yours. And not only that it's YOUR favorite.
Like Cindy said, you tell him, THANKS! for keeping it safe, I want it back now.
Doesn't mean you can't still have one made for him for Christmas, but this one... is YOURS.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 October 2014):
 No, I don't think it's mean. Wasn't your bf supposed to wear your necklace only to keep it safe until you could retrieve it ( and supposedly wear it yourself ) ? You never said you were going to GIVE IT to him, and in fact , if one wanted to be malicious, could suspect that your bf...wanted a necklace and got it by playing dumb :).
Tell him that you need it back because for you it's a special memento with sentimental value from a special friend who counts on YOU wearing, or keeping the necklace.
And that he will have his own necklace soon, a special one just from you to him.
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