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writes:My fiance and I want to marry, but I'm 17 and he's 25. Can we legally marry in the state of North Dakota? My parents have already given us permission so it's okay by them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): don't listen to those who are asking you why you're marrying so young. If it's what you want do it. You asked if it was legal and yes it is. For all those saying her life ends after she get's married, get over it, getting married doesn't stop you from doing anything. You can experience it all, don't let these people confuse you.
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reader, RitzaD. +, writes (11 August 2008):
 It seems there isn't any problems, u have ur parents on ur side and that's all that is needed.
I know ur question was if its legal, but my question is, are u sure u want to take that step?
I only ask because my sister who is now 23 with 3 kids, seems really depressed. At age 16 she got pregnant by her 21yr old bf who is now her husband. By the time she graduated she was pregnant again, and still was living at my parents house. She did infact grow up to fast, by age 13 she was having sexual relationships, and she just always saw her self older.
I just recently graduated, and I do have a bf of 4yrs. We are trying our best in doing things with smart choices. We both attend university, and my sister who is married always tells me I have a boring life, which is not true. She wants to see me dinking my ass off, be with different guys, simply just what she wishes she could do, thats fun to her I guess. But my ways of enjoying life are different.
My bf's friends and my friends are all in the same group, he is 2yrs older than me but we are on the same stage. My sister tries to go out to clubs everytime she has a chance, her husband isn't into the same things she is. I know this might not be ur situation but what im trying to get across is that, u have so much to live for at such a young age, not just the partying or anything but ur own choices, and learn to become independent so u won't be tied up to somebody. ur fiance might have already had his time, what about urs? U guys can enjoy it together. why so eager to get married???
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reader, lonesome810 +, writes (11 August 2008):
Why do you want to get married at such a young age?
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (11 August 2008):
 i live in california, so i wouldn't know. but it sounds like you two can. usually if you are underage but with parental consent everything is fine.
but are you sure you want to get married at 17??? think of all the things you are going to be missing out on in the next couple of years. for example, hitting up the bars with the ladies when you turn 21. clubbing. parties in college.
my mom married when she was 19 to my dad who was 29 at the time, and pretty much every other day she tells me to never get married young. she has a great life, but she realizes she missed out on a lot of things and she slightly resents him for that. she has never done so many things.
if you are positive you want to go through with it, make sure you keep up with your education and don't depend on him!!! there may be a day when you want to break free but you find yourself financially dependent on him and will not be able to. have your own career!
every once in a while i think my mother wishes she had.
good luck!
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