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writes:I think I am going to be single for the rest of my life. My longest relationship was 3 years, but the average is 6-12 months, however I've been single for over 3 years now. I am very shy but even so joined evening classes at college, I also make effort with my appearance when travelling to work and smile at people, yet no one is interested in me unless it's just for some no strings sex (which I decline).I have spent these past 3 years believing the old saying that there's someone for everyone and it will just happen but it clearly isn't. I'm now 40 years old and for the past 10 years I've said to myself maybe next year it will happen. I am coming to the conclusion that some people are destined to be alone and that is my lot.I'm so lonely.
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reader, Stoney1215  +, writes (5 October 2013):
First how do you know when someone is only interested in no strings sex with you ? Do they tell you that ? Also with guys no strings sex is not always string free. I have been with my wife for 16 years and i definitely wanted sex with no strings when we met.
The length of previous relationships mean nothing. Remember all relationships that dont last forever have failed. Even marriage ends in divorce half the time and marriage is supposed to mean your relationship worked. Join dating sites , go out on dates , maybe even have some stringless sex. Make yourself happy and a relationship will be the least of your worries
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (5 October 2013):
That’s hard, but you’re looking for one person in a million. However great you are, if you meet your special some-one early in life, there’s inevitably a good helping of luck that’s come your way. IT hasn’t come yours. So, maybe next year, but then again maybe not.
Evening classes, groups that do a hobby you like (walking groups for example), or volunteering are fantastic ways to meet people. The trick is not to approach these with the aim of meeting a man then being disappointed, but do them to make friends and to just enjoy yourself whilst you’re doing those things. They’ll boost your self-esteem and confidence. You’ll probably encounter men and you can learn to overcome your shyness by remembering that he’s a person first and foremost, before a man. All this will help you be relaxed and confident, feel less alone and isolated, and get you ready to make the most of it when that bit of luck comes your way.
On-line dating gets a bad press, sometimes deservedly, but it can be a fantastic way to meet people if you shop around for a good site. By that, I mean one which may or may not be free, but allows you to enter a profile with description of yourself and what you’re looking for, and has good search criteria. I’m thinking you might want to search by common interest, rather than star sign, for example.
The beauty of this kind of dating is that you know something about each other before you exchange even the first message.
I wish you all the very best.
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