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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:HiI was wondering why sometimes in our lives when are having a normal life ; stable relationship and everything going on nicely ; we still think of our few crushes we had in our lives which makes us question that maybe this is something I don't want to have in my life but long for our crushes!Even when those few crushes didn't treat us well and we had no chance of being with them and even if we did; it wouldn't be healthy or stable relationship!Does anyone else relate to it ? Is it just human nature to be never thankful ?And why do we ever think of them ; what's the reason we want them in our lives ? Does that mean they really were special ?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (13 April 2014):
 Its 'the one who got away' syndrome.
Sounds like you need to inject some spontaneous fun/romance/quality time into your current relationship.
If you don't feed something it dies, so before your current becomes another one who got away, show your appreciation for what you have.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (13 April 2014):
 I think once you start to love or like someone that person will always have a special place in your heart just because you thought of them in a loving way. Sometimes we as human beings miss small things people did, and more than often we don't miss the previous crushes we had but more the kinda love that we felt when we were with them. Every love you have ever had for someone is different and sometimes much better than other times when you may of loved somebody. For example there are some men and women who wish they could go back out with an ex from there teens years, just because the love they felt back then was much more care free and fun. It doesn't mean they don't love who they are currently with however, as just because you miss something doesn't mean you want it. I think it isn't in our human nature to never be greatful, but I think in this day and age things are taken for granted way to often, and we don't start to miss or regret it until its gone, and thats one of the reasons why I believe people think about there old crushes. Because the novality of a person being theirs has been and gone and then people are filled with guilt of not jumping at the chance when they had it or for letting a person go to quickly. But to summarise I think everyone we ever liked or loved will always have a special place in each persons hearts.
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