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writes:Does anyone have problems with the changes that happen in your life as you get older? When I was younger I was pretty happy in life. In middle and high school I had some close friends and eventually had a first long term boyfriend. Well now that I'm 19 and an adult, there have been some major changes in my life and I don't really feel happy like I use to. I'm no longer with that boyfriend and most of my friends have either moved or went to different colleges. They all have moved on with their life and nobody really talks with me anymore. I know I should be making new friends at my college but I haven't really been having any luck with that and feel a little out of place because I don't know anyone.I kind of feel lonely and for some reason can't stop thinking about the past. I guess I'm having a hard time with these changes? I am wondering if this is normal and what should I do about this? Reply to this Question
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (13 April 2014):
 I can tell you as a fellow teenager this is completely normal and happens to the best of us. Two years a go I had more friends than I could handle, a long term boyfriend, and a promising future in highschool. I used to go out almost everyday and party every weekend. My life was never lonely and I had lots of people to talk to. Since then all of my friends apart from 2 have disappeared, my boyfriend turned out to be abusive, and I am now dealing with a mental health disorder which has caused me to go on leave from college for almost two months. As we get older, life throws curveballs at us, and because we were so young we all had high hopes for the future, but of course as you get older you have more pressure on you, more work, more responsibilities, which can be scary for all of us. We all have to take that major step where we go into adult hood and lose sight of the little things which used to excite us when we were younger. However once again like I said, life throws curveballs at us, and sometimes they can be good, which means you life could be totally different than it is, in like a year or so. And even though you may feel lonely and a bit cut off as you aren't having any luck with college friends (neither am I), I would really cherish this time. Think about it, you have all this spare time to enjoy the things you like doing, such as hobbies and interests and just genuinely enjoying the world. And I think you should really get out there and start grabbing opportunities, while they are still there, because once you manage to get to your 20's, I can assure you that it may get to the point where you are so busy with life you don't actually get any spare time, so enjoy this part why you can and make the most of it. If theres a hobbie you miss doing the continue it. If there is a place you want to visit then set some time aside and go there, if there are some people you want to get back in touch with or catch up with then do it. Make the best of this time while you still have it, and try not to take people and this huge pressuring world to heart. Good Luck x
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